My lovely Mum has passed away

virgogirl · New User Joined: 02 Jan 2007 Posts: 9 Location: west yorks

hello everyone
I have been down in kent for the last few weeks to look after mum
sadly she passed away on 9th march.
it was so hard to see the pain she was going through but there was nowhere in the world that i would rather be
her last few weeks were full of laughter and joy and we have some lovely memories... she so wanted to be home with her family and not in a hospice... the nurses came in to help us and they were all fantastic... what a wonderfull job they do!
mum died in dads arms having a cuddle with all her family nearby... just as she wished for
she was such a brave lady...made all her own funeral arrangements and even had a letter read out in church that she had written to us all!
I am heartbroken but at least i have comfort in knowing that we all did everything that was possible for her.my brother works in the funeral buisness so he conducted,my brothers and sons carried her coffin and my sister and i dressed her in the chapel.... all these things made it so personal and special...i suppose we can say we were really lucky!
she has gone now and is at rest without any more pain but i know she is with me..keeping me strong and guiding me

She’s in a better place right now
Than she’s ever been before;
All pain is gone; she’s now at rest;
Nothing troubles her anymore.

It’s we who feel the burden of
Our sadness and our grief;.
We have to cry, to mourn our loss,
Before we get relief.

We know we’ll reconnect with her
At the end of each life’s road;
We’ll see her cherished face again
When we release our earthly load.

fatherson · Regular Joined: 05 Jan 2007 Posts: 29 Location: Nottingham

I am very sorry for your loss, i understand how you feel and i am glad you sound so strong.
That poems beautifal.
Good luck, we will all see our loved ones again.
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fractalstructure · New User Joined: 28 Mar 2007 Posts: 3

you and your mother are both very strong. and i dont have words to express the sadness i feel about your mother, even her strength.. it makes me sad. but at the same time, im happy that she is free of her suffering, and who knows what kind of contraption life is in the "big picture" but im sure your mother will never truly leave your side. stay strong virgo girl.

roxi · New User Joined: 29 Mar 2007 Posts: 2

I know that it is a couple of days late as I just joined the forum but I wanted to express my sympathies to you.

I am expecting to be in your position very shortly and pour all my good will into the following amended blessing which was techically a celtic wedding blessing but if you read the words I have found it to fit for the living to help you look beyond the passing wether you are of celtic decent and religious(I'm celtic but not particularally religous)or not.

May the gods be with you and bless you.
May you see your children's children.
May you be poor in misfortune, rich in blessings.
May you know nothing but happiness From this day forward.
May you have
Walls for the wind
And a roof for the rain,
And drinks bedside the fire
Laughter to cheer you
And those you love near you,
And all that your heart may desire
Except for one thing
So that you may strive towards it;
This will keep your your heart pure and true.

chrissie · New User Joined: 08 Mar 2007 Posts: 2

I am so sorry for your loss Virgo....I lost my father on 4th March to cancer. It started in his oesophagus a year ago and spread to his liver earlier this year. He only had five weeks from being told it had hit his liver to when he died, four weeks of which were spent in hospital and a lovely hospice.
I am very grateful that I had chance to tell him how much I love him and how much I'll miss him but even so, I am finding it very hard to come to terms with....I can't show my emotions in front of my mum as she is hurting badly, so my poor family has to put up with my tears.
Hopefully the pain will ease soon.

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