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Abbey122
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 Posted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 2:46 am Post subject: Just lost my dad to lung cancer |
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| I just came across this page because i am the sort of person that cant really voice their thought out loud about this because its all so raw and painful! i just needed somewhere to chat to people who completely understand how im feeling...my dad was diagnosed feb 28 06. and died just the other day 10th of Jan. its been really hard on my whole family esp my mum i get so upset when i think about her having to go to bed on her own and live life without her husband... those 2 were so perfect for each other... its not like they had the most perfect loving relationship and never fought or nething its just that they were so great together and they just clicked. Its weird when mum and dad sat me n my sister down (me 19 sister 17) we were so upset but definitely had a strong faith and a real positive outlook on it because the doctors were so positive and they believed that they could beat the cancer... 10 months later he's gone! the thing is at the moment i feel ok because its all very surreal each day its almost like ihav to remind myself that hes not with us anymore and it honestly breaks my heart! i just got a promotion at work and the first thing i thought of doing was telling my dad. i guess the hardest thing is we've got past what people call the hard bit saying goodbye and the funeral and stuff but to me the hard bit is now waking up everyday seeing a photo of dad on the pillow next to my mum in their bed and just basically having to go through life without him... at this stage i just cant believe that this has happened... the doctors said things were going to be really tough and he would get really sick and all through the bad times i just thought ok this is the worst of it but he will come good. mum called me on new yrs eve day i was away in cairns with my boyf she said dad wasnt good and i had to come home because he may not make it through the day... he did though he survived 10 days and luckily i was able to spend some time with him... The thing that gets me through each day is that he isnt in any more pain but selfishly all i think about is us now and the fact that we dont have him around anymore... anyway i think this is enough for my first post i just wanted to let you all know some info bout me and my dads sickness.. i am really hoping that this forum will help me out and i will be able to help some of you out too by being there for other people... Thanks look forward to some replies... |
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fatherson
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| Posted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 4:20 am Post subject: Re: Just lost my dad to lung cancer |
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I totally understand your pain. I lost my dad on the 14th december 2006. Its not easy but i always say that my dad would want me to look after my mum, sis and whole family...that gets me through...also that he is watching!
I am very sorry for your loss, life is hard and your only 19!!
I am 28 and i thought i was young!
But really, keep going and thinking that everything you do...your promotion for one, is in honour of your dear dad. it helps me.
You sound very strong and mature, your dad would be very proud. I bet he is looking over you everyday!
With love and sympathy, Andy.
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Abbey122
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| Posted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 7:06 am Post subject: thanks so much |
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| thanks so much for your reply it really cheered me up! i know that there will be really tough days but people tell me it gets alot easier so hopefully soon sometime i will get to that stage where im able to remember the good times more than i feel the pain of our loss. i am really happy i came across this site though because i think this is exactly what i need to express how im feeling as i need to...! thanks heaps again. hope your ok about your dad, not that you will ever be ok but i hope that you feel some comfort and peace in the knowledge that your dads now at peace, as is mine. |
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fatherson
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| Posted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 9:16 am Post subject: Re: Just lost my dad to lung cancer |
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No problem at all. Share as many stories as you like. Talk soon!x
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brainman
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| Posted: Fri Jan 26, 2007 11:17 am Post subject: Re: Just lost my dad to lung cancer |
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Hi Abbey,
Thank you for sharing your story. My dad died last September. I am 52 years old. I cannot imagine what you are going through at 19. I am glad to see that you are seeking support and also giving support to others. Both of those are very healthy ways to deal with the grief and pain you must have in your heart. My prayers and thoughts are with you, Abbey.
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1992 Astrocytoma grade 2, left motor strip
2005 Recurrence this time said to be an Oligodendoglioma grade 3, same location.
My Story Part 1: http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?p=7350
My Story Part 2: http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?t=8029
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