New to this: 21 fighting for my mother's life, PLEASE HELP

Brat · New User Joined: 09 Mar 2006 Posts: 3 Location: Wisconsin

[color=violet]Ok how to start this...
I am 21 and I just found out my 50 y/o mother has non-small Cell Lung Cancer. I am the youngest of 3, I have 2 older brothers.

My mom was told she had Lung Cancer Feb 6, she started Radiation Feb 7, and Chemo Feb 9. She has Radiation 5x week (mon-friday) and Chemo 1x week (Thursday). I take her to 3 out of 5 of her appointments and my dad takes her to her Chemo, then we switch off Fridays. I work third shift so I am home during the day w/ her.

I myself am not handling this well. I don't know what to expect, how I should feel. Some days I feel like crying, some days I feel like SCREAMING, some days I sit and say I AM TO YOUNG TO BE LOSSING MY MOTHER, and that she is to young to die Crying or Very sad

But now I don't sleep, barely eat anything cause when I do I get sick. I just don't understand whats going on and how I should feel. or even where to go

Any insight?
Karla[/color]

missumom · Experienced user Joined: 05 Jan 2006 Posts: 65

Hi,

I remember when my mom was diagnosed, I said, 'This can't be happening...not to her..not to my family.' I felt helpless. I wanted one wish, like a little kid, just one wish and that would be for my mom to be healthy again.

I remember looking out, at the sky, of the hospital window and asking God, why he's doing this to us. We're not bad people. Why is he doing this to my mom?

I felt all sorts of emotions. Life is unfair. The thought of my mom having cancer sickened my stomach, but I had to be strong for her. I decided to take time off work just to be there for her.

Spend as much time with her as you can. Talk about the good ol' days and make her laugh. Just spoil her rotten. Study the type of cancer she has and ask the doctor all sorts of questions. Even ask them to draw diagrams to clarify things for you. Just because your mom has cancer, doesn't mean the end. It could go into remission. The treatment could prolong her life. As hard as it seems, try your best to be positive, if not for you, for your mom. My dad is reading this book by Pierre Trudeau's son about treatments to all sorts of illnesses. This forum helps a lot too.

Wish for a miracle and never give up hope!

Brat · New User Joined: 09 Mar 2006 Posts: 3 Location: Wisconsin

[b][color=darkblue][/color]Just as I thought the end was nearing.... My mom came home from her Chemo/Radiotion treatment today with the news that her 'field of radiation' has decreased to a 3rd of what it was a month ago. She will be going in next week for a complete PET scan to see for sure what we are dealing with. I can't even explain to u how that made me feel. It gave me hope. Surprised

Karla[/b]

missumom · Experienced user Joined: 05 Jan 2006 Posts: 65

Now, that's what I'm talking about....don't ever give up hope! I love good news!!! You'd be surprised how strong and brave people dealing with cancer can be. It amazes me!

Take care of your mom, as well as yourself.

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