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staceym
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 Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 5:21 pm Post subject: my mom just died,very confused and angry |
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| hello, i am farely new to the forum, only writing a few times.My mom was officially diagnosed jan.1. she went through chemo and radiation for 8 weeks.her esophagus shrunk from radiation and she couldn't eat.friday she went for radiation and was admitted into the hospital for observation with having a touch of pnemonia.we were called that afternoon around 5:00.when I got to the hospital she didn't know I was there.she was so bad and it hurt all of us.she couldn't breathe and they were pumping her with morphine and said she was going down fast.yes she died saturday morning around lunch time.i don' t know what happened.they didn't expect it and neither did we.i do know that chemo kills all the cells in your body and puts you at hiv level.that is a fact.therefore you can't kill off germs at all.most people die from the side effects to chemo and radiation which is the case with my mom as well.i tried to explain this to her because i don't believe in this.it is a very lucrative business and doctors are making alot of money from sicknesses.i am very angry also because three days before my mom died her doctor told her her cancer mass had disappeared.she was so excited and called all of us.i knew different.why do doctors lie like they do? someone has to be held accountable don't you think? if there is anyone out there that feels the same way as i do, please let me know.i have been reading the forum and i think people are scared to really voice their opinion. thank you |
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Vee Smith
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| Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 5:33 pm Post subject: Re: my mom just died,very confused and angry |
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Stacey, I am so sorry - my deepest condolences.
You will find many who will sympathise with your anger and distress. It is hard enough to lose a parent, but to lose one so suddenly is almost unberarable. |
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pbj11
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| Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 5:57 pm Post subject: Re: my mom just died,very confused and angry |
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Stacey,
I am very sorry to hear your dear mom lost her battle so soon and in a quick way. I'm sure you are in shock and feeling very raw right now. You have my sincere condolences.
I hope you are able to get some answers to your questions. It's very troubling to carry these issues with you and they need to be resolved for your peace of mind. It almost sounds like she might have thrown a blood clot to her lungs, with your description, but that is mere speculation on my part. There are many things that can go wrong with this nasty disease, but chemo is not typically one of them, with the monitoring of blood counts they do nowadays. Pneumonia and clots are very common and we suspect my own husband had pneumonia at the end. He had heart issues caused by the location of one of his tumors. He died fairly unexpectedly, so I understand the questions you have.
You've just been through the wringer and are in a state of extreme grief. May you get some rest and have some peace in the days ahead.
God bless you and hold you close at this time. We will be here for you to discuss and vent when you need. Prayers for you and your family.
PBJ
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Tera
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| Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 9:26 pm Post subject: Re: my mom just died,very confused and angry |
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Stacy, I am so very sorry to hear about your mom. I pray for peace for you. It is hard, I know. I don't think folks here are afraid to voice their opinions, we've all lashed out in one way or another when going through it. You are going through it now and I feel your pain.
This disease is insidious and so destructive. Alot of folks have had good results with chemo, others not. Everyone is so different. Pneumonia, unfortunately, is one of the dangerous conditions that can come with lung diseases. The chemo not only kills the bad cells it kills the good cells too so one is more susceptible to infections, which is what it sounds like may have happened with your mom.
I pray that you will find some peace. |
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helensgirl
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| Posted: Sun Apr 27, 2008 5:46 pm Post subject: Re: my mom just died,very confused and angry |
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Stacey,
Your mom's journey with the doctors and the sudden decline sounds remarkably like my mom's. One day they're telling us that she will start Tarceva(type of chemo in pill form), and physical therapy to get her strength back, and the VERY next day, telling us that she only had days to live...I was also VERY ANGRY....well....still am rather angry with her idiot doctors. But, I figure if I were to go and tell the fools off or something, it would definitely not bring her back...and maybe she would just want me to let go of that anger if she could tell me so...So, I deeply empathize with your feelings, believe me, but just don't let that raw emotion eat away at you. Think of her fondly, and peace to you...Take care, Kim
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koikkeril
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| Posted: Mon Apr 28, 2008 11:28 am Post subject: Re: my mom just died,very confused and angry |
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Stacey
I am so sorry that you and your family have lost your mum and so soon after being diagnosed.
I can understand the anger inside of you and I will be praying for you to have peace of mind!
Hugs and Gods blessing, koik |
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