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schw6316
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 Posted: Wed Apr 23, 2008 1:53 pm Post subject: Girlfriend has bone cancer... |
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About four weeks ago I (25) found out my girlfriend (28) has bone cancer. She seemed very at ease with everything, I tried to talk but she was won't have that. Over the past four weeks i have started to see a steady decline in her.
A couple of weeks ago I took her to boston for the weekend and I spent most of the time in bed holding her her because she couldn't even move she was in so much pain. At least I got her to a lighthouse, she had never seen one so I made sure that was the first thing we did.
After the weekend I am beginning to fell that she is not telling me everything. Since such time she has been trying to break-up with me, which always ends in her saying "just leave me I do not want you to go through this, your younger then me and you deserve better". I would never leave this girl, but I feel helpless in anything that I do. |
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brainman
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| Posted: Thu Apr 24, 2008 1:41 pm Post subject: Re: Girlfriend has bone cancer... |
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schw6316, I am very sorry about your gf's cancer. Your story is oh too common. It seems that people think that the best thing to do in order to "protect" the ones they love is to push them away.
Do you know specifically what kind of bone cancer she has? Often, people who say the have bone cancer really have cancer in their bones that originated somewhere else. That might seem like an insignificant difference but it is not. It makes a big difference in treatment options and prognosis.
You and your girlfriend are in my thoughts and prayers.
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2005 Recurrence this time said to be an Oligodendoglioma grade 3, same location.
My Story Part 1: http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?p=7350
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schw6316
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| Posted: Sat Apr 26, 2008 8:55 am Post subject: Re: Girlfriend has bone cancer... |
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Another day passes and she keeps trying to push me away more agressively. Last night she tried to break-up with me again telling me she hates everything about me. I am here for this girl ever step of the way, she is my everything. This morning she was yelling at me for being to nice of a guy.
No matter what she tells me or does I would never leave this girl. I try to comfort her and nothing seems to be working. I hate being helpless to a situation, I just wish it was me instead of her.
Thanks for your continuing support. May prayers are with you all and your families. |
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interval
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| Posted: Sun Apr 27, 2008 3:38 am Post subject: Re: Girlfriend has bone cancer... |
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schw6316, I am sorry to find about yours problems.
You must understand your gf's position. It is a normal reaction to a very bad news that will dramatically change her life (and your).
She needs all your love and support. Be very smart. For the beginning avoid to discuss about illness. Focus on pleasant things you have in common and step by step make her understand that she has a lot of reasons to fight. |
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brainman
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| Posted: Sun Apr 27, 2008 10:21 am Post subject: Re: Girlfriend has bone cancer... |
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schw6316, you are in a very difficult situation. While I admire our willingness to stick with your gf in her struggle with cancer, you have to respect her wishes. You do not even have "I am married to you" to fall back on. If she goes to the hospital, you will not be able to get any information from the staff. Same thing about information with her doctors. I am not suggesting that you "cut and run" but that a little distance might be better for her at this point.
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Site Administrator and long-term cancer survivor
1992 Astrocytoma grade 2, left motor strip
2005 Recurrence this time said to be an Oligodendoglioma grade 3, same location.
My Story Part 1: http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?p=7350
My Story Part 2: http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?t=8029
Blog http://jimhawkinsport.blogspot.com/
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Lostboy
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 2:34 am Post subject: Re: Girlfriend has bone cancer... |
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| How is your partner doing? how are you doing? |
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