New diagnosis of kidney cancer

starlius · Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 12:20 am Post subject: Thank you

Thank you for your support. Yes, I just found out last week. I am going to take the no treatment option, since this is my second rodeo with cancer. I am at peace, and very grateful for the extra years I had. I first got renal cell carcinoma on my left kidney and it was surgically removed - the kidney, etc. But now my right kidney has a tumor and it is far enough along that I think this time, I will just go with hospice.
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mybabiesbaby · Regular Joined: 12 Aug 2007 Posts: 31

How does your family feel about your decision to go into hospice? I am here for you if you ever need a friend...

You seem to have such a peace about it...I can not bring myself to be at such peace with my mom's illness...

my prayers are with you..
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starlius,
Welcom to the Forum- I hope you find the information and support you need here. If you haven't already post a little bit about you and story in the approriate froum, might help a little or at least others.

Welcome again.
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starlius · Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 10:50 pm Post subject: Thank you for your support

Hello,
I wanted to reply to you but I am still trying to figure out how to go around and conversate here. Very Happy

Thank you for your support. I am trying to figure out the right forums and how to reply and post.

I want to be a support and help to everyone too. I have been through the cancer road before. This is my second journey.

I am happy, at peace and have learned so much on my first cancer that it has helped me alot this time around.
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starlius · Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 10:56 pm Post subject: Re: response

[quote="mybabiesbaby"]How does your family feel about your decision to go into hospice? I am here for you if you ever need a friend...

You seem to have such a peace about it...I can not bring myself to be at such peace with my mom's illness...

my prayers are with you..[/quote]

Hello, thank you for your prayers - I pray for you too. My family feels at peace . We've been thru this before. My first cancer - left kidney was devastating and I suffered alot.
This time , I am so much more prepared and at such peace. I learned so much my first cancer.
I am going to do hospice at home and be able to understand so much more.
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starlius · Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 6:36 pm Post subject: No Treatment Options

Hi ,

I received an interesting reply in one of the other forums about my decision to go the no treatment toute. I was wondering, - 'do people perceive this as "giving up"?

I guess it would be an interesting topic to discuss. I have already been through cancer once before, had surgery, and weighed all my options with my doctors and family.

I feel it is the exact opposite for me - not giving up, or giving in, just giving. Giving in the blessed way, as a gift, giving in being so grateful , and blessed, giving in the way of total peace and joy.

I feel so at peace because I do know that there are different journeys for all, and many options and things to factor in. I did have surgery and all kinds of options, my first rodeo, but that was a good thing for that time and those circumstances. This time, however, it will be a far better journey and a smoother transition as I know what affected me the most the last time and what things to avoid.
I am at total peace, and giving my thanks to God for the years I have had leads me to know this is the right choice for me.
But , I do see the value and certainly the perspectives of this topic.
I pray for everyone here and thank you all for such wonderful support. Very Happy

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To answer you question....

If you were to do "no treatment", because you feel, no hope, faith or self pity and feeling sorry for yourself- then YES it is "giving up."

BUT to have faith in yourself and your decision, to be at peace and believe gods will, etc. Then no not giving up. Just living your life the way you wish.
To be at peace with yourself. Then It is the perfect decision for you.

I think it is great FOR YOU. Wink

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I agree with Inica. Like you, I have gone through this fight before... twice in fact. If it recurs I honestly think I will go with the no treatment option. And I say that fully aware that 1. I have survived much longer than I ever expected to and 2. I do have a mild bipolar disorder that can impair my judgment at times. But even when I am on the "high" side, I think that I have done the best that I could and that maybe it is my time to move on. I do not know if I believe that each of us is born with a death-date given to us. I think we are all still alive because a part of us wants to live... even if we are unaware of that part. For the life of me, I cannot figure out why I am still around Laughing

. I guess I will just continue to LIVE for as long as I live Wink

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starlius · Posted: Sat Dec 22, 2007 4:40 pm Post subject: For all the right reasons...

[quote="In"]To answer you question....

If you were to do "no treatment", because you feel, no hope, faith or self pity and feeling sorry for yourself- then YES it is "giving up."

BUT to have faith in yourself and your decision, to be at peace and believe gods will, etc. Then no not giving up. Just living your life the way you wish.
To be at peace with yourself. Then It is the perfect decision for you.

I think it is great FOR YOU. Wink

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Thank you. I experienced many things when I first went through cancer the first time. For me, I truly understand and feel compassion for so many that have the struggles of self pity, why me, and etc.; there are often consistent phases or steps people go through when especially they first come across a life threatening illness. I think I learned so much my first journey with cancer, a struggle of years, where I experienced alot. I am glad. I now know. And it has been such a blessing, and this time around is so much better.

I am truly blessed because i know that I did give the good fight and did all I could , when I could. For all the right reasons. Of course, then , there was more potential and the conclusion of the doctors was there was an appropriate course would could reach some proactive possibilities.
This time around it is a completely different set of circumstances. But Hope comes in the individuals joy of their decision - quality of life and their family considerations, etc. There is total peace. And happiness, that I am making the right decision. May god bless you
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[quote="brainman"]I agree with Inica. Like you, I have gone through this fight before... twice in fact. If it recurs I honestly think I will go with the no treatment option. And I say that fully aware that 1. I have survived much longer than I ever expected to and 2. I do have a mild bipolar disorder that can impair my judgment at times. But even when I am on the "high" side, I think that I have done the best that I could and that maybe it is my time to move on. I do not know if I believe that each of us is born with a death-date given to us. I think we are all still alive because a part of us wants to live... even if we are unaware of that part. For the life of me, I cannot figure out why I am still around Laughing

. I guess I will just continue to LIVE for as long as I live Wink

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And, thank you too,, as I agree with you, and Inica. It is, and should always be, an individuals choice. As you, and Inica, each of us, as I, have learned and gained so much from our life experiences. This gives us a better grasp and perspective, and is very empowering. Also, it makes things so much calmer, peaceful and joyful.
I am always excited about being alive- the joy of life and all it brings - I am also aware that historically , as far as I can tell, not many of us have come out of this journey of life without the day of passing. But I must say, I am also a person of faith, and I am totally at peace and joy as this is a transition for me , to a new life and I am embracing my journey both here and when I move on. Peace always... Smile

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