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JustineHH
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 Posted: Sat Apr 21, 2007 9:10 pm Post subject: Breast Cancer Recurrence |
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If my sister-in-law's breast cancer has returned (2 previous recurrences) and shows up in this week's PET Scan, what words does she need to hear from me to help her through this?
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rlee
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| Posted: Sun Apr 22, 2007 1:12 pm Post subject: Re: Breast Cancer Recurrence |
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JustineHH,
In general, words of support. Consider reposting this in coping and support instead of cancer pain. You'll probably get more responses.
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brainman
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| Posted: Sun Apr 22, 2007 1:51 pm Post subject: Re: Breast Cancer Recurrence |
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[quote="JustineHH"]If my sister-in-law's breast cancer has returned (2 previous recurrences) and shows up in this week's PET Scan, what words does she need to hear from me to help her through this?
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Hi Justine,
Your sister-in-law is fortunate to have people who care about her. I do not think word will be what she needs. A hug might be better. Listening to what she has to say might also be a better option. During my hospitalization, the visitor I appreciated the most was a friend who did not know what to say but was willing to listen to me talking about my fears. If you do feel like you need to say something, a heart-felt “I love you and am here for you” might be all she needs to hear.
I will keep you and your sister-in-law in my thoughts and prayers. Please, keep us informed.
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JustineHH
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| Posted: Sun Apr 22, 2007 4:19 pm Post subject: Re: Breast Cancer Recurrence |
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Thanks so much. I was obsessing over what to say.
She lives far away so I can't hug her. But last night I sent her a HUG Care2 email card and said I was here if she needed me. I've not heard from her in four days now and am scared for her. |
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Bethany
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| Posted: Sun Apr 29, 2007 1:15 am Post subject: Re: Breast Cancer recurence |
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Hello Justine,
Your reply from Jim was very true with some good ideas. I've had a BC recurrence and appreciated so much having someone to listen and give hugs. What made me upset was those who insisted loudly that I would get through this and live until I was 100. Also those who repeatedly said 'be positive' - this didn't sound sincere. I hope I will be positive and will live until I'm 100 but when I got the news I didn't feel comforted at all by those thoughts. Truly there will be many well meaning people [who don't know what to say] so as a friend just chat frequently and allow her to talk.
My best comforter other than my husband was a long distance friend who rang frequently and let me cry and talk [and complain].
You have a very important role- all the best!
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