Meeting Mom's soul, after her death

MPapailiou

Hi all...

I've been thinking about posting this message since May 2006, after my Mom's passing away, but myself didn't trust my own experience. My mind was telling me that what I felt and saw was what I wanted to feel and see and not something real - so I was very reluctant in sharing this, especially with people who cope with cancer themselves, or they have relatives who do. Now, after having more experiences with my Mom's soul, I feel that I have to share this with you. I like to call myself a spiritual person and not a religious one. I will just share my experience with you and if it means something to you keep it in your hearts, otherwise just forget it.

The few nights before my Mom's passing away from liver-lung-bones cancer, I was staying with her night and day at the hospital. She was in a state of coma and lost communication with us. Nurses have told us that the ending was coming, but that should not stop us from talking to her. The night before her death, I hugged her dearly and talked to her - "that she should not be afraid of letting go life as we know it, that she will meet again with the spirit world and she will be free of worries". She and I always believed in life after death. I once asked her, many years ago, that if she would die first she should try to give me a sign of her presence as a soul.

It was noon when she had her last breath. My siblings and I were by her side. A nurse was also with us, with whom I had wonderfull spiritual conversations the previews nights, especially about a patient that she had, who had a NDE - Near Death Experience.

It was strange, after her death, my Mom had a huuuge smile on her face. It was like she was happy when she left her body. All nurses came to see this before they took her away. It was astonishing.

I stayed at the corner of that hospital room, knowing in my heart that she was somewhere around. I was so sure of it, that I actuall mentally demanded her to come to me. I screamed in my mind, "Where Are You? Mom, Where Are You????". And then, suddenly with the corner of my left eye I saw something like a transparent apparition coming to me and "hugging" my whole left side of my body. The feeling was so strong that I was left speechless. The "personality" of that entity was definitely my Mom's, only that I could feel her like she was a child again with lots of happines and play-like attitude. And then the feeling just went away. I told this to my brother and sister who weren't very sure that my experience was real.

The next days, Mom appeared in my sister's dreams giving her answers about things she was very anxious about, concerning her funeral. After her funeral, my boyfriend and I stayed last at the church and took some candles to light them up. He is an agnostic. He was telling me that he doesn't believe in life after death and in the existence of the soul. At that very moment, the fire on the candle he was holding in his hand lighted up on its own! I was shocked, but he was not just shocked, he was devastated, it took us hours to make him come back to normal. He was crying, he accused me of pulling this trick somehow and so on. I was just smiling in my heart, because I knew it was my Mom's playfull actions to show him the truth.

Several things like that happened these last few months that made me and my siblings search more on these, engage in meditation and renew our faith to the spirit world and love. Other times I would smell flowers in her old bedroom, or my sister's small kids they could come and tell us that they felt her and so on.

Please forgive me if I have upset anyone by sharing these experiences, it was not in my intentions.

Just fellt the urge to share this with you all.

Love,

Mandy
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Mandy
Daughter of Jean, who passed away on May '06, 9 months after diagnosis (NSCLC IV, with liver and bone metastasis)

Our spirits are eternal. Keep the chin up!

Vee Smith · Moderator Joined: 12 Feb 2006 Posts: 821 Location: UK

Odd and inexplicable things can happen. I had an incredibly vivid dream once in which an old and very dear friend sat in my sitting room, smiling at me, saying "I've come to say goodbye". Two days later I heard that he had had a massive stroke and indeed he died later that day. I have no explanation as to why I should have had that dream - he had not been on my mind and his health until then had been good.

fractalstructure · New User Joined: 28 Mar 2007 Posts: 3

reading that made me cry. in both a happy and sad way. it was very touching. i too consider myself a "spiritual but not religious" person, and i wanna say i fully understand how you feel, even though i cant...but. What you felt was real, your mother is not gone. she will always be with you. And she is free of earth's cruelty

Richard Day Gore

What an amazing story, thanks for sharing it. Bless you and your dear Mum. She will always be there for you.
Love,
Richard Day Gore
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Nomoremum · New User Joined: 22 Feb 2007 Posts: 8 Location: Australia

[quote="MPapailiou"]Hi all...

Hi, that's strange but beautiful. My Mum passed away 29th January this year and she was also comatose so there were no actual words and I felt like I had missed out on the 'last conversation' While sitting at the hospital watching her struggle to breathe I suddenly HAD to go home and feed the dog (he had been fed just 2 hours before) It took me about 15 minutes and by the time I got back she was gone. It was like she knew and didnt want me to watch her struggle anymore. I knew she would be as soon a I left. Anyway I felt so sad that I didnt get to speak to her and tell her all that stuff your supposed to tell them, but after her funeral I a dream where I spoke to her and asked her things and she answered. It was awesome. There were problems with some of her jewellry and in the dream she told me what to do and it worked out perfectly.

Amazing things do happen, and Mums are beautfiul always.
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sariwa · New User Joined: 17 Apr 2007 Posts: 3 Location: Canada

Your experience with your Mom's passing is very real to me. My dad died in the hospital 3 years ago and I was with him when he did. We were very close and the experience was incredible. I had just joined a meditation group and was with the group earlier in the evening. I had checked with the hospital (I work there so I knew I was getting the straight goods!) before going to the group. He was doing well at that time. At the end of the meditation session, people shared and one gifted lady told me she saw my Dad with angels around the bed and she knew his time was very short. In my meditation I saw a familiar east coast property with a park bench and a lady sitting on the park bench. I recognozed her to be my grandmother who had passed away 30 years`ago. She just looked at me and I instinctively knew she was waiting.

Two hours later the hospital called me to tell me Dad had taken a turn for the worse and was moved to the Palliative Care`room. He died about 4 hours later.

After his wake, I went to my room to be alone and as I lay on the bed a huge orb very slowly drifted across the room. I knew it was Dad's spirit. I had him creameted and took his ashes back east for burial. The night before I left, I was having coffee with a very gifted friend who, as he was about to leave, stopped and said Dad had a message for me:
1) I was not to check his ashes with my luggage but carry it - Dad always was afraid of losing his luggage when flying, and
2) I was to wear his tie which he described in detail and a particular pair of cufflinks he had given me years previous.

My friend did not know my Dad and certainly had no knowledge of the tieor the cufflinks. I had not worn the cufflinks in years.

For a couple of months following his death, Dad came to me in dreams and gave me messages about specific things. There were times when I was about to do something during the day that I would question and I would get a very strong innner voice of "Stop that" or "Don't do that". I always immediately knew it was Dad.

I also consider myself spiritual and not religious. Following Dad's death, I did (and am still doing) a lot reading in the area of spirituality. I firmly believe there is life after (and maybe life before?). I believe I have seen and felt the evidence of it. My last sentence in my eulogy to Dad was, "My relationship with my father has not ended; it has just taken on a new dimension." And that has been my experience.

As a result of my experience with Dad and subsequent reading, I adopted he philosophy that life is like a school. We are here to learn and when we have sufficiently learned our lessons, we graduate. I give that analogy to many patients and their families I work with. Many seem to accept it in trying to make sense out of their pending death or the death of a family member.

So, MPapailiou, I wanted to say that I believe your experience was special and wonderful. Which makes you a special person to be open to those messages and experiences.

God Bless!

Nomoremum · New User Joined: 22 Feb 2007 Posts: 8 Location: Australia

Hello there

I just wanted to share and see what you think. I had a dream last night with Mum in it and it was just like she was there but we all knew that she had died and I was only one who could see her. I talked to her for ages about things happening now and I asked her that if she was dead how come she still looked sick? She just laughed and said they let you come back how you were last remembered. Weird. Something that has nothing to do with it but sort of does is this. When I met my fiance I had a dream about thsi little old lady and her house etc etc I told him about it and I had descrbed his Nanna's house exactly how it was. She had died 14 years ago. I had anohter dream about her this time in a different house and it was someone's 30th birthday. Nothing came of it then about a week later my fiance's Mum rang me and said that her brother's daughter had her 30th that night that I had the dream over east and the house was near train tracks just like the dream. I'm not sure what those dreams mean but it was very strange.......
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MPapailiou

Thank you all for your responses, it's so nice to know that others havs shared similar experiences.

I started meditation myself after these experiences, as Sariwa, and has been amazed by the changes in my way of thinking and in my life. I also believe that we are eternal spirits, having volunteerily human experiences for our learning and advancement.

Nomomerum, I think indeed that our loved ones sometimes come in our dreams in the way they last looked for us to "recognize" them. I was once in my mother's house, sitting in a room when I smelled a very intensed smell of flowers. There were no flowers around and I couldn't understand where that smell came from. I told myself that there should be a deodorant somewhere around. Then I got the strong smell that my mother's sick body had in her last days at the hospital. I felt like I was kicked by someone! Stood up and turned around waiting to see my mother! I didn't see her but I understood that she gave me that smell because she knew I wouldn't understand that it was her trying to comfort me with the other smell.

Bless you all,

Love,

Mandy
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Daughter of Jean, who passed away on May '06, 9 months after diagnosis (NSCLC IV, with liver and bone metastasis)

Our spirits are eternal. Keep the chin up!

sariwa · New User Joined: 17 Apr 2007 Posts: 3 Location: Canada

Your last post drummed up some more womderful memories for me. My father was a great garlic eater. One night I woke from a deep sleep smelling this horrendous smell.I sat up trying to fugure out what it was. And then it hit me - garlic. As soon as I realized what it was, it disappeared. Several times my wife and I would be watching television and one would turn to the other and say, "do you smell that - scotchmints?". Dad also loved his scotch mints. And during these times our dog would be staring at the ceiling as if staring into space. Then she would hide her head (what a wimp she is!!!) Many many many times things happened to let us know Dad was still with us.

Have a great day.

Nomoremum · New User Joined: 22 Feb 2007 Posts: 8 Location: Australia

I just had to share this with everyone seeing as we're on the subject. I'm sure everyone has a million stories but this was pretty spun out. My fiance's brother had bipolar disorder and killed himself in a pretty horrific way.

WE had his Mum around our house and her neighbours rang us and said that somebody had broken into the house, nobody could bring themselves to go back there so we rang the police. They went there (it was still a crime scene) and every single light in the house had been switched on. He smoked cigarette rollies and we still smell them really strongly every now and then. A lot of strange things have happened with that but I wont go into all of them!

It's just weird how these things happen. NO explanations but you can't deny the proof of the actual happenings. I love hearing about other people's experiences and am glad I'm not alone!

Take care

Female 26 years old
(Missing her Mum who passed away 29th Jan 2007 diagnosed with NSCLC)
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