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wallace
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 Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2007 10:43 am Post subject: Having a hard time dealing |
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My father is dieing with cancer and I doing know what to do. I am made because I don't understand why god is doing this and scared for my mom. I know saddness is mixed in there somewhere but I can't seem to deal with it because of what is happening.
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I am having issues with dealing with my dad being sick and is going to die. |
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Vee Smith
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| Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2007 6:56 pm Post subject: Re: Having a hard time dealing |
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| It is hard. Death is hard for those left behind. And when you are angry, there is no comfort that you can get from others. I am really sorry you are having a difficult time. |
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momof4angels
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| Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2007 8:16 pm Post subject: Re: Having a hard time dealing |
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Well, God is not doing it.. Satan is, God is just not stopping it, for what reason i do not know, but he has a plan and in time you will come to know his plan, perhaps it is just your father's time to go, and there will be something you will be able to learn from this, maybe it will give you inspiration to help others who are going through the same thing. God uses our problems for his good  In time it gets better.
I will be praying for you and your family. |
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wallace
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| Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2007 9:41 am Post subject: I don't know about the satan thing but thanks for the reply |
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Found out last night that he isn't eating or waking much. He isn't about to take liquids and he ask not to be placed on any life support and with his condition deteriorating an IV is considered life support. I have been on the edge of a anxiety attack for 48hrs.
My wife officially became part of the mourning the living club last night. She always tries to stay positive but last night she just couldn't. I so badly wanted to tell my dad that we were pregnant but it looks like it'll be via prayer. So now I have said it and read the words. I so badly wanted him to know he was going to get a grandchild from his daughter inlaw. It is so hard to carry these thought with me. I can't even imagine how hard it is for my dad.
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csweens
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| Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2007 10:18 am Post subject: Re: Having a hard time dealing |
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Hi Wallace -
Well, I see that your post was a couple of days ago - how is your Dad doing now? I understand being mad - I've had so many boughts of anger/frustration since my Dad was diagnosed and my house is also cleaner than it's ever been -
I don't know how we are supposed to deal with this - the one thing that I have read and read and read everywhere, is to spend as much time as you can - it's precious. Well that's all great and everything but I am a single mom trying to keep food on the table, work, go to chemo appointments, worry, worry, worry......so now I feel horrible that I'm not spending more time with him
I know this probably isn't helping you at all - just wanted you to know that you're not alone - it really does suck - I know everything happens for a reason - whether you believe in God or a Higher Power or whatever - I absolutely know we are to learn something from all our live experiences but why can't we learn whatever this is supposed to do for us on a personal level without this intense pain - I have to take days minute by minute sometimes because I wanna freak out and scream
Anyway - really didn't mean to babble on - hope things are a little better -
I have your family in my prayers
Cindy |
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csweens
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| Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2007 10:19 am Post subject: Re: Having a hard time dealing |
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oops sorry - didn't see that you posted this morning - looking at the post above it - I'm an idiot sometimes please forgive me.
Cindy |
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Vee Smith
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| Posted: Wed Apr 18, 2007 8:04 pm Post subject: Re: Having a hard time dealing |
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| Hello Wallace - it is always said that hearing is the last sense to go. Could someone tell your father about the baby? He may well take it in and it may well help him. |
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