Well Wishers indicating recovery unlikely

joannc220 · New User Joined: 14 Nov 2006 Posts: 2

I have a problem with well wishers telling me of the experience a family member or friend had with Breast Cancer. I'm telling them that I am going thru Chemo to lessen my chances of reoccurance and they are tell me "thats what they told my sister, but her's came back and she died the second time". I wish only people with good news would come to my desk and sit and talk to me with encouraging news not gloom and doom.
Is there someone out there that can give me good news.
I had Ductal Cancer Stage IIA. Had Surgery (only off work 12 days) had mammosite Radiation 10 treatments in 5 Days. Just completed #3 or 4 treatments. Will be done the day after thanksgiving and I personally am looking forward to starting to get back: my taste, my hair, not the weight ( I lost 25 lbs) maybe I can keep it off, and my self esteem. I have worked thru the whole thing (part time sometimes) but I don't want to let this get me down. I work with about 600 people, my bosses have been great, they let me work from home when I am feeling to bad to get up and get my wig on and get dressed. Since I was dignos on July 31. I have had test after test, surgery (2 if you count the mammosite) 10 treatments of Radiation and 3 treatments of Cheom.
Am I kidding myself when I think I am doing great and will survive this?

Vee Smith · Moderator Joined: 12 Feb 2006 Posts: 695 Location: UK

Yes, you sound as if you are doing fine, and No, it's not an absolute death sentence. Many many women survive cancer and its treatments and have long and active lives. Don't let the jeremiahs get to you. Keep yourself positive, whatever. And best wishes for the future.

Cindy · Senior User Joined: 01 Dec 2004 Posts: 156

Joann, some people can just be so "stupid" sometimes. I don't know what they are thinking when they make those types of statements.

Having breast cancer does not mean you are going to die. I had a horrid patholology, stage 2b, positive nodes, extensive angiolymphatic invasion, micro focal spread, triple negative, grade three, huge tumor, on and on. I had my treatment and I'm doing fine. I was diagnosed nearly 4.5 years ago.

It's all a crap shoot. No one knows who is going to make it and who is not. Many, many women do fine. Some do not. We are individuals and what happens to one person doesn't mean that the same thing will happen to the next. Just take one day at a time. Do all that you can do to help yourself. Watch your diet. Lo-carb, Lo-fat. Cancer loves sugar. Glucose is its fuel of choice, along with arachidonic acid, which is in animal fat. Carbohydrates turn into sugar in the body, so you want to watch your simple carb intake and gravitate more to complex carbs. Not saying you have to cut them out. You should, but if you just can't, then do it in moderation.

Researches have also found that wherever there is cancer, there is inflammation. They seem to think that there may be some correlation. Arachidonic acid incites inflammation when too much is taken into the body. One thing you can do to help yourself, as far as inflammation in the body, is to watch the junk food intake and consume natural anti-inflammatories, such as green tea, garlic, omega 3, ginger, curcumin, bromelain, etc, to help keep it in control.

No one knows what causes cancer nor do they know what to do to cure it. It is my firm belief that one does what one can to help self. Until they find the cure, do what you can to help your own self get through it. After your treatments and with the blessing of your medical provider, do much research and learn what you can do, naturally, to help keep recurrence at bay. I fall off the wagon plenty of times, but I still strive to do all that I can do to help keep a recurrence at bay. Research has found that women who eat lo-carb, lo-fat, has less chance of recurrence.
_________________
Where is the cure???
www.truefacesofbreastcancer.org
www.diepbreastreconstruction.org
www.bcsisters.org/forum
www.mybreastcancerstore.com

joannc220 · New User Joined: 14 Nov 2006 Posts: 2

Thank so much for your information. You have done a lot of research haven't you. I have done a little but your information is the most helpful so far. Thanks so much. I have my final Chemo treatment tomorrow, I am looking forward to it ending, but I am not looking forward to the side effects. Every one has been different so far. But I can look forward to it being the last one. I should be on the up swing by Christmas and the New Year. Thanks again

Cindy · Senior User Joined: 01 Dec 2004 Posts: 156

The side effects may last for about a year, depending on what you had. I still have sinus problems and headaches, which were brought on by the AC. My bone and joint aches, which I got from the Taxotere, started feeling better after a year. After 2.5 years, I really started to feel close to my normal self. It takes a while for the body to heal and feel better. The body is a miraculous machine. Here we have poisoned it and it still comes back. A little worse for the wear...but it comes back. If cancer has taught me anything, it is that my body is so precious. It fights to live and to take care of me; survives all the abuse. The least I can do, is to try to take better care of it, after all it does for me. Good luck to you. You'll be better in short time.

Cindy
_________________
Where is the cure???
www.truefacesofbreastcancer.org
www.diepbreastreconstruction.org
www.bcsisters.org/forum
www.mybreastcancerstore.com

Johnson · New User Joined: 28 Nov 2006 Posts: 4

Hello

I came to know that Osteoporosis Drug Lowers Risk With Fewer Side

Effects and this will really be a good news for women .I think this could serve

better and people should prefer to go for medicines that has minimum side

effects which adds life to them.

Warm regards,
Johnson
_________________
http://www.breastcancer-info.org

amby · Regular Joined: 05 Dec 2006 Posts: 19

My Gramma had breast cancer when she was 74. She had a mastectomy and chemotherapy. Here's the sad news - she died this past September 2006, in her sleep at the age of 95. Her cancer never came back. She drank a couple bloody mary's every evening- (could it be the lycopene in the tomatoes?) ..... I send lots of prayers and good wishes out to you all.
Allison
_________________
Amby

lethalpt · New User Joined: 27 Jan 2007 Posts: 7

Lots wishes out to you all.God always help the good peoples.

Bye
_________________
Cancer Blog ->http://cancer-encyclopedia.blogspot.com/
Mortagage and credit Blog ->http://mortgageandcredit.blogspot.com/
Pc Game Trailers Blog ->http://pcgametrailers.wordpress.com/
Have Fun Very Happy

Loving husband

Never give up!

A good friend had breast cancer about 4 years ago. She had a partial mastectomy followed by chemo and a partial reconstruction and since takes regular doses of Tamoxifen.
She has been diagnosed as clear at every yearly check-up since and seems well on the way to acheiving a ripe and fit old age Very Happy

Good Luck.
_________________
She will not go quietly into that good night!

Loving husband

Sir; for a physician you are quick to jump to conclusions with little evidence to back them up! Even some of your 'facts' are erroneous.
Although the State of California has deemed the miniscule quantities of coal tar in soaps and shampoos to be 'carcinogenic' there is very little evidence to back up this claim.
As for coal tar soap being 'banned in the EU' nothing could be further from the truth. It can still be bought in many outlets across the EU - and especially in the UK where the leading brand (Wright's Traditional Soap, formerly Wright's Coal Tar Soap) can only be purchased in packs of 3 or 4. The only sops to the court's claims have been the legally enforced 'warning' (but only legally required in California) on the packaging and one manufacturer reducing the coal tar concentration from 1.1% to 0.5%.
Although my late wife and I preferred a more pleasently perfumed soap for our ablutions we nevertheless bought coal tar soap for our labrador dog in preference to the many possible dog shampoos. Why? Because he suffered from a skin condition that defied diagnosis and cure despite the effects of it being plain to anyone. The skin on his chest would start to weep thick, smelly puss and his fur would come out literally by the handful. I tried many expensive remedies before I started his regular bi-weekly bathings with Coal Tar Soap which totally cleared this up and kept it at bay for the rest of his life; a further 8 years.
By the same token many thousands of psoriasis sufferers worldwide are relieved of many of the symptoms of their disease by the use of Coal Tar Soap.
Please do not forget that under FDA rules almost anything could be classed as carcinogenic should it cause tumours in specially bred lab rats - bred for their tumour sensitivity - if it causes cancers in more than 30% in any batch that is exposed to the suspected carcinogen IN ANY QUANTITY!
I now have two labrador dogs as company for me after the loss of my darling wife of 37 years, both 'rescue dogs' and I will be purchasing some more Coal Tar Soap to give them their monthly baths. I doubt that they or I will see any skin cancers in our lifetimes from its use and I strongly urge anyone who has any skin or scalp condition that responds favourably to Coal Tar products to continue to use them. Please do not be swayed by the venal 'verdict' of one Californian jury!
_________________
She will not go quietly into that good night!

Vee Smith · Moderator Joined: 12 Feb 2006 Posts: 695 Location: UK

I put this sort of "evidence" on the same level as the research (using 3 boys as subjects) that "proved" lavender oil is oestrogenic and could produce female characteristics in males.

Natural products in normal use rarely contain enough of anything to cause trouble.

	Cancer Forums Forum Index -> Breast Cancer Forum	All times are GMT - 5 Hours
Page 1 of 1

A website for discussions about any type of cancer, including lung cancer, breast cancer, mesothelioma, prostate cancer, laryngeal cancer, leukemia, lymphoma, multiple myeloma and others