i just need to vent

eternallove5 · New User Joined: 16 Jan 2007 Posts: 2

My sister is 27 years young. She was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian/colon cancer. She just had her surgery 2 weeks ago. They took out both her ovaries. One was the size of a foot ball...the other the size of a soft ball. They also took out parts of her colon and thankfully were able to put it back together. They also removed the lining that surrounds her organs because there were so many tumors on it they couldn't just pick them out. They couldn't really do anything with her liver because there's just so much of it on there. She's recovering from the surgery but she's really going through some diffuculties. She now has some kind of disorder that makes her say things that are just our of the ordinary. it makes her curse and get some what violent. her foot board and side rails are so loose because she keeps kicking it and trying to break it off. Her caregivers have orders not to let her use their phone because she call everyone and starts to get all hyper. she starts talking about the strangest things. anyway, i'm just trying to be strong for everyone and trying not to let it get to me...but the truth is...i'm really not okay. I cry everyday. just the littlest though gets me emotional, but i don't show it to anyone. i just tell them that i'm fine. they gave my sister an estimate of 6-18 months to live. I know she can beat this. she will get through....she's such a strong person...heart, mind, and soul.
thank you so much for taking the time to read my little post. may God bless you and your family.

fatherson · Regular Joined: 05 Jan 2007 Posts: 29 Location: Nottingham

My heart feels for you, 27 is no age. I lost my dad recently at 60 which i thought was young. The world can be a cruel place, theres nothing anyone can say really, just try and keep, hope and faith and be strong for her.
I know its easy to say but you have to try. Dont bottle your emotions up ethier, cry if you need to...that aint a sign of weakness, just try not to infront of your sis. You take care and keep us all up to date.
Best wishes my friend.
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cpotr · New User Joined: 16 Jan 2007 Posts: 1

My very healthy 74 year old mother was diagnosed with a brain tumor in August. The swelling from the brain tumor was causing a lot of side effects including trouble concentrating, motor skills were off, confusion to name a few. Further tests revealed that it was primary lung cancer stage IV with the brain as the secondary. Immediate steroids to get the swelling down with the steroids of course bringing their own sweet side affects including swelling and hyperness. After all options were explained we opted for stereotactic radio surgery to get rid of the brain tumor with chemo and radiation following to take care of the lung tumor. They said we had a 50/50 chance of it going into remission after this treatment. 28 radiations and 6 weeks of chemo once a week. 4 weeks andf then tests to see what had become of everything. The brain tumor appears to be dead although now there are new ones. The lung appears clear although now it has travelled to her liver. The liver is a life threatening organ versus the brain and the lung. Mom does not want to be a vegetable, she does not want to be a burden on others, she does not want to have the pain that dad had, she has been very independent for her life thusfar. Dad died of bone cancer 16 years ago and it was a very painful ending for him. Mom opted to go with the whole brain radiation for 15 days to keep the brain tumors in check and then chemo two weeks after that to hopefully slow down the growth of the tumors in her liver. The radiation started last Wednesday.They said she has 4 months to a year possibly a bit more. Why can't we find something to stop this horrible disease? There are so many people around the world working on it I just don't understand. I know everyone has to die but to watch someone you love and know they're going to get sicker and sicker and that there will be little that you can do to help with the journey is so overwhelming that I just don't know what to do with all of this emotion.

Richard Day Gore · Posted: Tue Jan 16, 2007 2:13 pm Post subject: Re: i just need to vent

The fact that you're writing about it is very brave. It always helps to express youre emotions. It seems like the surest remedy for pain is Time. But when you're caught up in it, waiting for that time to pass, it's a truly terrible feeling. You're in my prayers and I do hope you and yours find peace.
Love and regards always,
Richard Day Gore
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byermoor2

hi
i know what you are going through,i lost my dad on the 18th october and my mam on the 23rd of nov,i still hav'nt come to terms with it. i lived next to them so i saw them every day and done everything for them. We had no warning that my dad was going to die we just thought he was going into hospital to get his meds changed,then they informed us that he had leukemia and he died two days later.My mother had her stomach removed and we thought she was doing fine, went for her checkup and they said they did'nt want to see her again untill her next checkup.a few weeks later she went down hill so we phoned the hospital and they said to bring her in ,they had a bed for her,after the test they informed us that a limph node next to her liver must have had a tiny speck of cancer in it that they missed and it had spread. There was nothing they could do so we brought her home.All of the family was with her ,she could not sleep ,drink,or eat and we could tell that she wanted to go and join my dad ,she had had enough.After we all said our goodbyes ant told her how much we loved her the nurses came in and put her on what you call a syringe driver ,she fell asleep and two days later she died.but what was so strange was seconds before she died she open'd her eye's and looked at both sides of the bed,i think she was checking to make sure we were all there.I will never forget that night,but i am glad i was with her every day till the end.I don't think i will ever come to terms with it,i want them back so much.Thinking of you at this sad time. love jill

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