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PostPosted: Sun Jan 07, 2007 11:41 pm    Post subject: Looking for some support... Reply with quote
Hi Everyone,

Allow me to introduce myself. My name is Eli and one of my best friends is very sick with Melanoma. Lately things have gotten very serious in terms of her condition and I guess I am looking for a little support outside of my friends and family who haven't really gone through this.

I met Jane in highschool, but we didn't really become good friends until university. There is Jane, Nina and I. We are very close. Jane was diagnosed with Melanoma two and half years ago at the age of 28. Her 30th birthday is slowly approaching as her cancer is getting more agressive. For the first couple of years the tumours would come maybe one every 5-6 months. But lately they are coming more often, are more agressive and are spreading. Tomorrow we find out to see if the cancer has spread to any of her major organs and I am terrified.

I thought I would be ok, I thought I could handle this, but as I sit here typing I realize nothing prepares you for this. I can't imagine my life without my greatest friend.

I can't believe two and a half years have gone by... waiting and hoping that things will get better, that this or that treatment or surgery will work. But this cancer has a mind of its own and it is relentless. My friend Nina says we can't "go down the rabbit hole" she doesn't want to think that Jane could pass away. I am conflicted between trying to mentally prepare myself in case she does pass away, while also trying to maintain some sort of hope that she could get better. But it doesn't look good, and it pains me to say that. No it breaks my heart to say that.

I could go on, but I will stop there. I hope it is ok that I vented. I think I need to start talking about this, as I have been avoiding for so long. Hopefully this will be a good forum to chat with other people about thier experiences and how they coped.

Thanks for listening... Eli
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lifestooshort
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PostPosted: Mon Jan 08, 2007 8:07 am    Post subject: Re: Looking for some support... Reply with quote
Hi Eli,

I'm so sorry to hear about your situation, it must be really tough on you.

I don't really have any words of wisdom or advice except that I read a book called A Time to Heal by Beata Bishop. Beata had an aggresive Melamona however she tried a treatment called Gerson Therapy and recovered. This isn't to tell you about this treatment, I don't endorse it or anything although it seems to work for some people, however reading this book might help you or your friend.

I really feel for your friend. I'm 29, (30 this year), and can't imagine what it might be like for her.

My thoughts are with you.
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