Teenager in need of positive support.

Gerard_irecfc90

Well i don't know really where to start. My name's Gerard and i'm 16. In April of this year i got the news that my mum had been diagnosed with breast cancer. At first I was just in a state of shock. My dad doesn't live with me. He left when i was 6. We've never really got on that well. Since my mum was diagnosed we have just stopped talking completly. I did my Gcses and passed them all. I then moved from my old secondary school to a grammer school.

Well my mum had the operation and went through the chemotherapy. Recently she went through the radio therapy and during that time I didn't go to school. I'm due to start back tomorrow and im dreading it. Looking at some of the stories on this site really scares me. I've seen so many about people dying from the disease and it's really made me think. I wouldn't be able to cope if that was to happen to my mum. I've been quite a complicated child as i've been growing up. Mainly due to the difficulties with my dad. My aunt lives with me and my grandmother moved in for a while when everything happened. I love them deeply but i just dont have the same connection with them as i do with my mum. Outdoors i put on a bit of a front in the big real hard world and the only thing that keeps me going is the love of my mum. If she was gone i feel id have nothing and wouldnt be able to cope with life at all.

I apologise for going on and if some of this doesnt make sense its because i was trying to get down as much as my feelings as possible. If anyone has any advice or wants to share anything please reply.

Many Thanks

DawnT

Hi Gerard,
Wow! I would think you we're my nephew, Tommy, who just turned 16 yesterday! Only my sister , Michelle, his mother, died 2 years ago today. He has been living with his father since she passed away, they don't have anything in common because Dad was barely around from the time Tommy was about 6-7. So they to have a difficult time. Your Dad, Aunt & Granpa most likely will not know what to say to you to make you feel better. They are also trying to deal with your Moms' sitaution on their own levels. They are having difficult times too. You have to work together on that one.
Your Mom has plenty to deal with, don't make your education another thing for her to worry about. School and socializing will be good for you. You need that. Don't feel guilty for having some fun. It will make you and your Mom feel better. Talk to your friends, you'd be surprised wher you might find the support you are looking for.
Yes, there are many scary stories on this site. I think that's when people seek out these forums, when they are scared. So there are many wonderful stories out there but those people aren't seeking any support therefore they aren't posting. Just because someone has Cancer does't mean they are going to die. Alot of Cancers are highly treatable these days. You may need to have a family sitdown so you know exactly what's going on and how you can help.You will feel better if you are well informed rather than left in the dark and wondering.
My best to you and your family.

Dawn
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