| Author |
|
Linda65
New User
Joined: 09 Jan 2008
Posts: 5
|
 Posted: Wed Jan 23, 2008 9:36 pm Post subject: my father has died |
 |
|
Hi Everyone,
I had posted on Friday that my father's oxygen requirement skyrocketed and we were having a hospice consult on Saturday.
Hospice consulted us at 10 on Saturday and he died around 445. It was so different than what i expected. I expected him to have apnea, be unconsious, pain, etc. He had an appetite up until Friday night and he was awake the whole time. It was almost so sudden that I thought maybe he fell asleep FINALLY then realized he had died!
Pbj---I want you to know how you affected my life. The hospice nurse told me my hospice kit would come Monday. Monday?!? I told her I needed something today. He was so restless. Seeing everyone who had died ~ trying to get out of bed, telling me he had to go home--she said she would try to get Morphine. She then called and said the hospice doc didn't have access to a fax to fax the script in. She called my dad's oncologist, spoke to the on call person, who would try to contact the attending. I read your post right after that fiasco and you stated "make sure you have morphine"---I called the hospice nurse back and told her that this was ridiculous that I couldn't get something and low and behold she made some calls and I got the morphine. I was finally able to give him something to decrease his anxiety.
Tera-you told me to savor every moment I had. I did. I stopped focusing on what I wanted and made it all about him, his happiness, comfort, etc. I can say our last weeks were definitely less stressed and focused on love and comfort.
Helensgirl-you told me to say what I wanted to say. I did~I absolutely feel comfortable my dad and I knew how very much we loved each other.
So tomorrow is his viewing, then Friday the funeral. I really am dreading this. I really could care less about it all quite honestly. I only find comfort in the fact that my mom met my dad and they are together (at least that is what he said as he was dying that she is here and calling him)
Either way, thank you for your support. I will be back. I hate lung cancer.
Linda |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
|
karibrenmom
Regular
Joined: 23 Oct 2007
Posts: 36
|
| Posted: Wed Jan 23, 2008 10:33 pm Post subject: Re: my father has died |
|
|
Linda,
I am so sorry to hear of your fathers death. You and your family will be in my prayers.
_________________
My mom was diagnosed with NSCLC Squamous Carcinoma 10/23/2007. Wedge resection 11/20/2007. Final pathology showed poorly differiniated large cell carcinomawith invasion of visceral pluera, T2NxM0/stage 1B. 12/14/2007. No chemo elected. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
|
brainman
Site Admin
Joined: 13 Oct 2005
Posts: 4209
Location: Tennessee
|
|
| Back to top |
|
|
|
pbj11
Site Admin
Joined: 12 May 2007
Posts: 1262
|
| Posted: Wed Jan 23, 2008 11:27 pm Post subject: Re: my father has died |
|
|
Linda,
I'm so very sorry to hear of your Dad's passing. You will be in my thoughts as you get through these emotional days. I know how exhausted you must be. I'm glad you know that he is with your Mom again and went peacefully. God bless.
Hugs,
PBJ
_________________
Husband diagnosed with NSCLC Stage IV. (Non-Small Cell Lung Cancer) Fought & lived 2 1/2 years with multiple lines of treatment.
Post describing our battle: http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?t=7026&postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=0 |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
|
Tera
Senior User
Joined: 31 Dec 2007
Posts: 186
|
| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 9:59 am Post subject: Re: my father has died |
|
|
Oh Linda, I am SO sorry. That was fast, wasn't it. My heart goes out to you and you have my deepest sympathy and prayers. Keep your chin up. I know how you feel about the funeral. I too was dreading it so bad. But....it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be...because I KNOW, beyond a shadow of a doubt, where my Mom is. Take comfort in that for your dad too. He saw your mom, there is no doubting that. So you know where they are also.
That doesn't mean we don't miss them, oh how we miss them. But they will be close to you, loving you, and looking out for you. Love knows no bounds. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
|
mommysgirl
Experienced user
Joined: 24 Sep 2007
Posts: 56
Location: Ohio
|
|
| Back to top |
|
|
|
DiscGolfer
Regular
Joined: 14 Jan 2008
Posts: 15
|
| Posted: Fri Jan 25, 2008 11:27 pm Post subject: Re: my father has died |
|
|
| Linda my condolences on your loss. My Mom is in Hospice at home and I fear she has slipped into a comma. She was non repsonsive today and has very labored breathing with lots of noise. I fear she may not make it through the weekend. You and our family are in my thoughts and prayers. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
|
|
Search 
Email Digests
Register to post
Profile 
Check private messages 
Log in
What is this ?
We subscribe to the HONcode principles. Verify here. All content and posts are copyright.
