Hey all

whowantstoliveforever · New User Joined: 15 Nov 2007 Posts: 2

I am an very young person (18 years now),but i try to understand this world from another point of view (philosophy view)

I need a good advice from you:

My mother had breast cancer (2001 or so),she had chemo and all that stuff,big pain,emotions that i cant understand( and don't want to).....and all that things your probably experienced alone.

Sure as son of her i was in that sorry all the time,watching my mother without hear,family problems,but thanks to god she is alive,and psychically ok.

Now i started an student life(uni),but i noticed my mother is again without hair(i sow her with an hair band but dint wanted to ask her why is she again without hair) ,she is not so happy,and when she talks she has always that liquid,like smokers have or sickness you get when its cold outside,i heard that some scan shows something on her liver,but i dont know what it could be. (i am not sure about all this "symptoms" should they mean something,ok, hairless means something but...)

This is my problem: i don't know what is best for her and for me:should i ask her exactly what is with her,i am scared bad news will affect my university,and i am not sure does she want me anything to know about it,my father doesn't tell me anything bad,everytime i ask about her healthy,she says its going somehow child,her face doesn't give an impression like " i am dieing".

Is it possible to go to the hospital where my mother is threated,and as her son, ask for imformation about her status (and if i have that right, should i make that,is it clever for my psyche)

This letter might appear as unemotional,i am an very emotional person,but the thing is what do i get if i think about it too much,i can just blow my university,and that means blow my life,and the question is does really my mother that wants)but yes i am more than just interested of her really status.I just dont know how will i watch her,loosing weight and loosing her mind if she has liver cancer and it starts to grow Sad

One thing i have to say to this community:Let it be (Beatles),if our dearest die don't worry we will soon follow them and be together again. (as my mother everytime says: be patient son be patient)

brainman · Posted: Sun Nov 18, 2007 11:35 pm Post subject: Re: Hey all

I am very sorry about your concern about your mother. I hope and pray that the breast cancer was not returned. I do not know what to tell you about how to get information from your parents. In the US you would not be able to access her hospital records without her authorization. So, just try to talk with your parents about it. Tell them how worried you really are and how this is impacting your school. If she wants to talk, she will.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

I moved your topic to the breast cancer forum since that is really what she has.
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ksplat · Posted: Mon Nov 19, 2007 5:14 pm Post subject: Re: Hey all

Hello
I too am very sorry to hear about your Mother & your concerns about her health. This is a very big concern for a child when a parent is ill.
Talking to your parents is the first thing you need to do. As Jim mentioned in his reply....tell them of your worries about your Mother's health, explain how this is affecting your life & your school life.
Secondly, I would access a counsellor through your school & talk to this person about your worries. You may find advice on how to deal with your family worries & talking about your problems will almost always show you some clarity & it will also be comforting for you to talk about it (even if your parents are reluctant to discuss with you).
You & your family are in my thoughts & prayers.
Keep writing to this forum as you will also find kindred spirits here, comfort & support also.
Cheers, Aussie Angie.
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whowantstoliveforever · New User Joined: 15 Nov 2007 Posts: 2

Thank you ppl,whit this kind of experiance you get a very good perspective about the world,and how evil it can be,even if you are not doing anything bad,and even you are not responsible for anything,but god has the knowledge why,thank you for your support and reading this topic

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