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wallace
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 Posted: Wed Apr 18, 2007 11:28 am Post subject: I lost my dad this morning at 5 oclock |
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I woke to the phone ringing and my brother was on the other line. My dad had woke up and my little brother spoke to him it was OK and told him to go back to sleep. He closed his eyes and a few minutes later was gone.
I have no idea how to emotionally deal with this. Now I have to fly home to Newfoundland in the morning and can't even get a flight for myself my wife and sister on one plane.
My throat is so tight and I just realized he is gone. I have no idea how to deal with this. We are having trouble with making the arrangements. I thank god for my little brother who is back there doing what he can. I want so badly to get home.
I guess it is real and time goes by but it has been the longest few hours of my life.
Thanks Everyone. I only signed on a couple days ago but i'll stick around.
much love to you all.
I love you dad.
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csweens
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| Posted: Wed Apr 18, 2007 1:06 pm Post subject: Re: I lost my dad this morning at 5 oclock |
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I was really worried from your last post and haven't heard from you that something had happened. I am deeply sorry for your loss and know that you have a hard road in the next days and weeks while things get sorted out - please do try and stay around here for support - there are so many people here that care so much -
I wish to you all the strength that you will need to get through - much love to you and your family during this horrible time.
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mattant79
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| Posted: Wed Apr 18, 2007 6:09 pm Post subject: Re: I lost my dad this morning at 5 oclock |
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I know what pain you are going through my dad died 4 months ago, i cant take your pain away although i wish i could the only advice i can give you is dont hold your feelings in like i did i wanted to cry to someone but i didnt and it made it worse, i really do feel for you and i hope you and your family are coping, these forums helped me alot and i hope they do the same for you,
If you ever want to talk i'm here for you,
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MPapailiou
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| Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 8:59 am Post subject: Re: I lost my dad this morning at 5 oclock |
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I'm really sorry. I know how hard it is.
Something that helped me a lot after my Mom's passing away is that I sat down and I actually wrote her a letter. Everything I wanted to say but I didn't, all the good memories, all the thanks to her, everything was in there. I felt like she was reading it and felt better.
I also talked a lot with my brother and sister. Kept nothing inside.
Wish you strength,
With loving thoughts,
Mandy
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Daughter of Jean, who passed away on May '06, 9 months after diagnosis (NSCLC IV, with liver and bone metastasis)
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Vee Smith
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| Posted: Fri Apr 20, 2007 6:35 am Post subject: Re: I lost my dad this morning at 5 oclock |
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| I am so sorry. Sincere condolences - but you have the thought that he is no longer suffering. |
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fatherson
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Location: Nottingham
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| Posted: Mon Apr 23, 2007 3:01 am Post subject: Re: I lost my dad this morning at 5 oclock |
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I lost my dad on the 14th december last year, around about the same time of day. So i can truly relate to you my friend.
The truth is, there is no way of dealing with it and you will never get over the pain...but...it does get easier. Just remeber, your dad wants you to carry on for him and enjoy life..he gave that to you, so make the most of it.
Ive been to very dark places but when i think this way, things get a little clearer. Patience, love, families and memories cherished will all help heal.
For now embrace your pain and shock as its very natural...it takes time to adjust...but you will.
God bless you, your family and your dad in heaven.x
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Still Keeping Faith
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2007 12:52 am Post subject: I lost my dad at 5 o'clock |
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Hi,
My sincere condolences to you and your family! I recently lost my dad on 3/16/07 at 5:10 p.m. to primary liver cancer, but I think it was the pneumonia that just expedited his death. I remember it so vividly I was just talking to my father that Thursday morning and even said good night to him Thursday night. Tried waking him up Friday morning and he just never woke up so in a sense, we're grateful that he went peacefully. Even now, I have my good days and bad days but I certainly miss my dad so much! I know everything is still so raw right now and it's been difficult adjusting to the loss, but I have to believe that in time, I will learn to live with the loss. And hopefully you will too. It is true though whatever emotions you feel, you just have to let it out somehow (talking to someone, talking to your dad, writing him a letter....whatever works) so the burden can be released so you'll have more energy to focus on what's important and that's to grieve for your father however long it make take as long as it's your own timeline and no one else. It also helps to have good support and to continue doing things that you like/love........at least it's a good distraction. Good luck and take care!
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