need some support

Smurf · Posted: Mon Feb 12, 2007 8:42 pm Post subject: need some support

i feel bad posting for support as I havent been around for ages. but ive been having a really hard time coping. my nan (who i live with) has NSSLC and was given 6 months on april 3rd 2006. she's doing really well considering-but i dont seem to be able to cope with thoughts of whats going to happen, and memories of the past etc. this feels so wrong even whinging like this when its my nan is dying. im sorry.
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Vee Smith · Moderator Joined: 12 Feb 2006 Posts: 796 Location: UK

Hi Smurf - no need to apologise. We do understand how difficult it is for someone in your position.

Have you accessed this site? http://www.riprap.org.uk/default.asp?eid=1

Also, does your Nan have a Macmillan Nurse? If so, go and talk to her/him. Even if she hasn't, the Macmillan or the Marie Curie organisations are there to advise and help. Helping relatives is part of their job.

Keep talking to us!

Smurf · Posted: Wed Feb 14, 2007 4:16 pm Post subject: Re: need some support

thank you so much. just going to look at that site now. nan's not doing so good recently and it's just starting to get to me.
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jfkbluecircle · Posted: Thu Feb 15, 2007 12:16 pm Post subject: Re: need some support

Hi, Smurf:
It is a good thing that you reach out to people in this sad and hard time in your life. I have been a member of this forum for only a short while but find that folks are kind and very supportive. Does your nan's doctor offer any kind of conseling for family members? Sometimes talking face-to-face with a person is hard and the threat of uncontrolled emotions scary. You may not believe it now, but you will survive this suffering. Don't wait to tell your nan how very much you value her as a person and as a loved one.
Best,
Jessica

fatherson · Regular Joined: 05 Jan 2007 Posts: 29 Location: Nottingham

[quote="jfkbluecircle"]Hi, Smurf:
It is a good thing that you reach out to people in this sad and hard time in your life. I have been a member of this forum for only a short while but find that folks are kind and very supportive. Does your nan's doctor offer any kind of conseling for family members? Sometimes talking face-to-face with a person is hard and the threat of uncontrolled emotions scary. You may not believe it now, but you will survive this suffering. Don't wait to tell your nan how very much you value her as a person and as a loved one.
Best,
Jessica[/quote]

True. I wrote to my dad alot near the final stages...not too scare him, just to tell him how proud i was to have him as my dad.
I tried to be subtle, so it wasnt too out of character.
I always told him i loved him anyway, we were pretty open as father and son and unafraid to show our emotions.
Best of luck to you,i pray you find all the strength you need.
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Smurf · Posted: Fri Feb 16, 2007 6:42 pm Post subject: Re: need some support

Thank you both, I am trying to cherish each moment with her
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