My dad won't go to the doctor

fclark · New User Joined: 05 Apr 2006 Posts: 1

My father had mouth cancer several years ago. they removed most of his tounge and teeth to get rid of the cancer. I think he has cancer again though. He has pretty much stopped eating. For the last 6 months he quit eating he might eat a tablesspoon of food a day. He drinks a lot of juice though and milk. He had what he called a sore throat for several months and could hardly talk and you could barely hear him when he could. He refuses to go to the doctor and tells me he's ok but I know he is not. He has lost 30 or 40 lbs. I talked to a doctor who said he might have a relapse of the cancer.

I know no one can tell me if he does or how long he might live but can anyone tell me thier experiences with throat cancer? How long are people expected to live? How do they die? Is the pain bad? What can I do for him? My 2nd child is going to be born in november and I really want my father to see him. Please if anyone can tell me thier experiences I would be really grateful.

mousa · Posted: Fri Apr 07, 2006 3:11 am Post subject: Re: My dad won't go to the doctor

Dear F.

Tell your Dad how much you love him and how much you want him to be well when your second baby is born. Ask him to go to the doctor with you. If he won't and you get no advice here on the forum then you will have to ask your Dad's doctor all the questions. I have no experience of this kind of cancer. Your Dad obviously had a very bad time of it several years ago and perhaps has made up his mind not to go through it again. If he won't take medical advice you have to accept that. Accepting what is - and what perhaps will be the outcome - is very quietening. Let your Dad know how much you care and just do the best you can for him in the circumstances that he wants.

My prayers are with you both,

Val

Futrue Onacologist · New User Joined: 22 Mar 2006 Posts: 2

Well, my grandfather has mouth and throat cancer also...they didn't have to remove his tounge but the did remove his teeth and he is about liek your father(....except hes on a feeding tube and is putting beer in it and still smoking....) his cancer is in the stage called remission...they dont have any more signs of the cancer but he is losing weight fast and not eating and they think the cancer is back...but they also say he isnt strong enough to take any more radation so right now they say he is well...so just let your father know your going to be there with him and comfort him and let him know you love him.

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