lung cancer

ella · New User Joined: 01 Apr 2006 Posts: 2

Hello just over a week ago my father in who is only 55 was diagnosed with lung cancer.The doctors told him that he has an aggressive form of cancer and that without treatment(which he has refused)he has between 6-18 month left.As you can imagine we are all devastated and very scared by this news.Please can anyone tell me what is expected to happen to my father in law over the next few months as his condition worsens.He has also suffered a stroke about 5 years ago so his health is not very good to start with.Also if this cancer is that aggresive is it possible that he could survive upto 18 month(which we all hope he does)without suffering too much or can we expect him to start to go down hill from here.Any advice or support would be gratefully appretiated Thanx Ella

mousa · Posted: Tue Apr 04, 2006 1:56 am Post subject: Re: lung cancer

Dear Ella,

Much of what I have written below I wrote recently to another forum member

It's a shock to find out that a loved one or friend has cancer. It is very scary. It is difficult for a lay person to give an opinion. But I can tell you that we are all different. And I believe that a great deal depends on the mind and spirit (soul) of the patient. You should ask the cancer specialist what to expect. Do not be afraid to ask questions, however insignificant, - it is a doctor's duty to answer all questions fully.

I am sure that the doctors will help your father-in-law if and when he is in pain.

What I found was best for me, when my husband was diagnosed with inoperable stomach cancer and given a few months, was to accept it and take each day one at a time. A friend wrote to me "try to share something good with him each day". So cuddling up, listening to favourite 'oldie' music, remembering fun times, and so on, became part of the day.

Ask all the family and friends to send good wishes, thoughts, and prayers. Loving support is important. As I said before, I firmly believe that the mind and soul help the body fight off illness. Perhaps your Dad-in-law would like to think about what could be right for him. Meditation? One of the most important things about the healing process is that your father-in-law must get rid of any "baggage", meaning he must forgive everyone who has ever done him wrong, and he must forgive himself for anything he has done wrong. Let it go. It was all part of a learning process. Forgive and let it go.

I hope this helps. You are all in our thoughts and prayers.

BTW my husband is now very well. He had 10 heavy chemos and is still on oral chemo but PET/CT in November 2005 showed no cancer!

Love,

Val.

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