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Laurenx
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Joined: 14 Sep 2005
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PostPosted: Wed Sep 14, 2005 9:14 am    Post subject: New to This! Advice needed! Reply with quote
HI,

Im new at all this, but I think I need some support at the minute, im 21 and I live in the UK in wales.
My Dad has just been diagnosed with a very rare form of cancer in his lungs (fibrosarcoma..spelling??), he went into hospital yesterday to have his first of many chemo treatments! 2 years ago he had a heart attack and last year he had the same form of cancer within a cyst on his arm...I cant help feeling that this all just seems so unfair..and I know that im being selfish in thinking it but I mean he has had his fair share of illness' and I dont think me and my mum are gonna be able to cope this time...my dad is so afraid and I cant bare it! Its all getting a bit much, I cant eat, I cant sleep and im becoming physically and emotionally drained!
I just wondered what I could do or if anyone has any advice, it w Crying or Very sad ould be much appreciated!

Thank you

xxx
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gway17
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Joined: 25 Sep 2005
Posts: 4
Location: Minnesota
PostPosted: Sun Sep 25, 2005 10:21 am    Post subject: Re: New to This! Advice needed! Reply with quote
One way or another, we're all new to this. There is no way around being afraid, etc. It IS natural and normal.

Get second oppinions. If you like your doctor, stay with them. If not, go to another. Not that the first isn't good, just that you may not have good feelings about them.

We have settled with a wonderful doc. The outlook for my wife does not look good, is a very sad time, but every day is a blessing and the family makes the best of each one. We've learned to handle bad days and laugh on good ones.

NEVER give up hope.
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debr88
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Joined: 18 Sep 2005
Posts: 8
Location: New Hampshire
PostPosted: Sun Sep 25, 2005 12:01 pm    Post subject: Re: New to This! Advice needed! Reply with quote
I know it's extremely difficult.....But,try to be strong for your dad,he needs you right now!! When my fiance was diagnosed with brain cancer,our daughter was 3 months old...and it seemed like in an instant our world was falling apart. I was crying all the time,I'd go days without eating.Then I thought....if he only has a short time to live,I don't want him spending it watching me fall apart on top of what he's going through.So I try to make him laugh,joke around and try to make each day happy.Don't get me wrong....I still have my pity parties.But I have them when I'm not around him.Talking to others about things help!!! If you ever need someone to lean on....send me a message!!! And PLEASE take care of yourself.....

Deb
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JoelB
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Joined: 26 Aug 2005
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PostPosted: Tue Oct 25, 2005 12:52 pm    Post subject: Re: New to This! Advice needed! Reply with quote
Lauren: Sorry to hear about your situation. As a former Hospice volunteer, I know the difficulties that families go through, sometimes worse emotionally than the patient's experience.

I'm adjunct faculty at local colleges, and just last night some of my students did a presentation on cancer and the family. They suggested a resource in the US called Cancer Family Care. I know you're not in the US, but I'll bet if you contact them, they'll know of a resource near where you live, or at least give you some sound advice. Their website is www.cancerfamilycare.org. I would also recommend getting the book The Human Side of Cancer by Dr Jimmie Holland. She gives compassionate information on coping with all aspects of cancer.

Hope this helps.
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MPapailiou
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Joined: 13 Sep 2005
Posts: 65
Location: Greece
PostPosted: Tue Nov 01, 2005 10:44 am    Post subject: Re: New to This! Advice needed! Reply with quote
Hi... I'm so sorry to hear about your father. My mother has lung cancer too and I know how you feel...

I would suggest that you visit www.blochcancer.org/ and read the "Info for supporters". Its information helped me a lot in understanding what to do so as to be more helpfull to my Mom.

Be well...
Mandy
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