New Diagnosis - my Mom **She's passed!!!

Tera · Senior User Joined: 31 Dec 2007 Posts: 279

Liz, that was beautiful. Your mother was a beautiful, wise woman and a wonderful role model.

Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

LizNDale

Thank you Tera,

She really, really was. Thanks for seeing that.

And I really appreciate your prayers.

Thanks again,

Liz
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My Mother - Stage IV NSCLC - Adenocarcinoma
Mets to Adrenal Glands and Brain
Diagnosed Thursday June 12th 2008
Died Sunday September 7th 2008

Her Story:
http://cancerforums.net/about9639.html
Her Statement of Faith Memorial:
http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?t=10528

onecoyote · Senior User Joined: 15 Jul 2008 Posts: 150

Dear Liz,
My sincerest condolences for your loss. I can not imagine what you must be going through and I wish you peace and pray you will find happiness again.
Take care,
Onecoyote
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Husband Danny, age 66,
diagnosed squamous cell June 6, 2008,
Right pneumonectomy performed with no adjuvant chemo or radiation on Sept. 2008
Metastatic lung cancer in the ribs, scapula and right kidney raised it's ugly head May 2009.
Renal cell carcinoma diagnosed May 2009
One round carbo/taxol, too weak to continue
Cancer racing like a freight train
Held my husband's hand when he passed away September 29, 2009

Trudy

Dear Liz,
my prayers have been with you and your family.
I am so sorry about your mom passing and all the emotion you edured. May God show you his conitinued peace and you rest in the fact He has given you His mercy to make it through the upcoming days.
((hugs sent your way))
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Trudy
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86 yr old Mother has NSCLC Stage 4 diagnosed April 2008

bnot

You and your family are in my prayers. I'm sure today has been a rough one on you.

I had to dry my eyes after reading all of the last page.

Your Mom sounds like my Mom. One special person!

LizNDale

Bnot, Trudy, One...

Thank you so much for your kind words...

Well, today was mom's memorial service, and it was beautiful!

We had beautiful flowers, we had the florist use two baskets that my mom made, and oh my gosh, they did such a fantastic job...my mom had used them for my wedding, and they are very, very unique. (If you can find a copy of September's Midwest Living Magazine, the floral designer is written up in it, her name is Cindie Sinclair or check out her web site, camrose hill flowers). After the service my brothers and I brought one of them to The Gathering, in her honor, and told them they can keep the basket.

I read the letter that I posted in the Memorial forum, my brother David spoke about the time only a few years ago when mom went back pack/canoeing with him in the Boundry Waters, his son and daughter Brian and Lisa both gave such beautiful talks about their grandma, and really provided some comic, yet poignant relief....

Like the story about how during treatment mom said she wanted to get some real funky earrings to go with her new hats that she was going to wear, and Lisa and Brian bought her some, and showed them to us, these big, bright, flashy **heavy** earrings they bought, that she professed to love, and wore more than once... and then they showed us the "funky" earrings SHE bought for her self, and they were pretty tiny, all things considered.. and the juxtaposition of the 2 pair was marvelously funny.

And Brian, he spoke so well about her, and finished with a rather sad part, wanting to make sure all knew that yes, Grandma was strong, and had great faith, but there was ugliness in what she experienced. And I was crying, and he finished with ''but we'll see her again sometime, and we'll answer 'Cindy Plante' when they ask us who decoupaged the Pearly Gates"...(there was a period where she decoupaged anything that stood still for longer than 5 seconds) and I went from crying to laughing in the space of 2 seconds..

The minister, who is new, this her 5th week, used in her homily thoughts from a letter that my mom write Brian and gave to him for Christmas. He asked her to write him the story of her life, and she did. This was months before she was diagnosed. It was really something. (hm, it strikes me now that between the letter to Brian and the letter about her faith she dictated to me, she wrote quite a bit of her own memorial service!)

Finally, my mom loved the bagpipe, I mean LOVED it. When we had a surprise 70th BD party for her 10 years ago, I asked a friend of a friend to play the bagpipe at her party, and he did, and it was wonderful. He wore the kilt and everything, and she absolutely loved it.

I found him again, and he played at her service today. After the benediction. He played Amazing Grace, 2 verses, he played out in the courtyard so that the sound drifted in to the sanctuary through the open windows. Then halfway through the second verse he walked away from the church, down the sidewalk, so that the music grew fainter and fainter...it was so beautiful, and so sad, representing my mom drifting away. It was my idea, and I knew it was coming, but the impact was even greater than I thought it would be, it was almost unbearable.

It was a perfect service, she would have loved it, I think she would have been proud of us for putting it together. I think she and dad were there. I cried and laughed and cried some more. There were so many people there and they all loved her or were touched by her in some way.

Tomorrow we inter her ashes at the cemetary, just the family, nothing formal, no minister or anything, just us. We'll pray together, say goodbye and put her urn in the vault next to my dads.

The mortuary is keeping some back in film canisters, and on Saturday my brothers, our spouses (except maybe for Dale - he has his prostate biopsy tomorrow, and may not be up to it...(Please pray for him!)), and David's kids Lisa and Brian are going up to Lake Superior, and will scatter some of her ashes in the lake that meant so very much to her.

And then, I think, we can say that this journey is over. I think I'm ready.

In hope,

Liz
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My Mother - Stage IV NSCLC - Adenocarcinoma
Mets to Adrenal Glands and Brain
Diagnosed Thursday June 12th 2008
Died Sunday September 7th 2008

Her Story:
http://cancerforums.net/about9639.html
Her Statement of Faith Memorial:
http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?t=10528

Tera · Senior User Joined: 31 Dec 2007 Posts: 279

Liz, I have no doubt your mom was there, with the family she loved, with her arms wrapped lovingly around all of you. What a beautiful, loving testimony to your mother.

pbj11 · Site Admin Joined: 12 May 2007 Posts: 2392

Liz,

The service sounded beautiful! I'm sure this was such an honor to put together. We did the same for my dear husband.

So glad to see you back and posting. How are you doing? I'm sure this is a very foggy time for you.

Sending hugs and prayers for comfort.

PBJ
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Husband diagnosed with NSCLC Stage IV. (Non-Small Cell Lung Cancer) Fought & lived 2 1/2 years with multiple lines of treatment.

Post describing our battle: http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?t=7026&postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=0

LizNDale

Thank you Tera...

**And you too PBJ! Didn't see your post before I posted this!!

On Friday, the day after her memorial service we had an informal, intimate burial of her ashes at the cemetary. Was very sad, but also good in that she and dad are now sharing the same plot, and as the marker says, are "Together Forever".

On Saturday we scattered some of her ashes in Lake Superior where we could see her favorite landmark, and it was very, very sweet, totally good, no sadness at all. There are still some left, not sure what we'll do, either scatter at the lake at our cabin, or hold on for yearly honors at Lake Superior - me and my brothers.

I want to thank everyone here for their prayers and support, and for the outlet this provided me. It really, really helped, I can't imagine what this would have like without it.

I send you all my love and prayers and good wishes.

Finally, real quick, about Dale - his biopsy came back with no cancer, but with high grade PIN in 1 core. HGPIN is pre-cancerous, with anywhere from 22 to 58% of cases which morph to cancer at subsequent biopsies. He'll have another biopsy in 6 months. We both feel really good about this, good chance it will not develop into cancer, and if it does, well we've sure caught it early!

I'm posting in the Prostate Cancer forum for that, but wanted to let you all know, I feel like you're all friends!

I do know I love you all.

in hope,

Liz
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My Mother - Stage IV NSCLC - Adenocarcinoma
Mets to Adrenal Glands and Brain
Diagnosed Thursday June 12th 2008
Died Sunday September 7th 2008

Her Story:
http://cancerforums.net/about9639.html
Her Statement of Faith Memorial:
http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?t=10528

pbj11 · Site Admin Joined: 12 May 2007 Posts: 2392

Hi again Liz,

My brain malfunctioned again. I meant to post something about Dale and his biopsy and plumb forgot! I guess this is good news, but glad too that they are monitoring it very closely.

Too much going on for you right now. I like how you put your Mom and Dad -- "together forever." I'll have to remember that. I kept my hubby's ashes and told the kids to bury us together when I go. I'm sure she's happy that you spread some over her beautiful Lake Superior. Our Great Lakes are so magnificent.

God bless. You know we're always here for good times and bad.

Hugs,
PBJ
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Husband diagnosed with NSCLC Stage IV. (Non-Small Cell Lung Cancer) Fought & lived 2 1/2 years with multiple lines of treatment.

Post describing our battle: http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?t=7026&postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=0

koikkeril · Super Moderator Joined: 29 Jul 2007 Posts: 352

Yes Ditto Liz

Fast, fast, fast and I am so sorry I was not with you on the post...but if it helps I was wondering how you are doing...I am so stuck in a mess of my own in India...its too difficult to post out my problem at the moment...but I will soon when my own pain settles down..

I am sending you a big hug Kristi....You are in my thoughts and prayers,,,,X God Bless Koik
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Husband diagnosed with stage 1V NSCLC Febuary 2007.....Lost his battle August 27th 2008 but lives on in my heart.

LizNDale

Dear Koik, how wonderful to hear from you!

If a bell rang every time a forum member thought of you, prayed for you or wondered how you were doing, you'd never have any quiet!

Thank you for your post and yes it does help to know your prayers for me and my mom were out there...but I am so sorry for what you are going through.

I am doing pretty well really, letting the reality slip through when it's safe to feel it. But only a little at a time!

It's so funny to think how my brothers and I were so worried she was in denial, and now I know looking back that we were in our own little world of denial ourselves!

Take care all,

Liz
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My Mother - Stage IV NSCLC - Adenocarcinoma
Mets to Adrenal Glands and Brain
Diagnosed Thursday June 12th 2008
Died Sunday September 7th 2008

Her Story:
http://cancerforums.net/about9639.html
Her Statement of Faith Memorial:
http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?t=10528

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