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Noid
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 Posted: Wed Dec 05, 2007 9:47 pm Post subject: Re: Biopsy Results are IN |
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Wow..so sorry to hear things are going so bad for you. I sure hope the radiation helps. I'm in the same boat as you s.o., except for me, they are waiting and hoping mine dosent' grow so fast, as mine is slow growing.
Try not to get so down..i've seen people recover from some horrible things before, even worse than cancer...you'd be amazed. Just keep hope. Don't give up just yet.
I'll keep you in my prayers.
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brainman
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| Posted: Wed Dec 05, 2007 10:54 pm Post subject: Re: Biopsy Results are IN |
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k, I am very, very sorry for you and your SO. The cancer has grown so fast!! All you can do is try to enjoy whatever time you still have... maybe celebrate Christmas early? I do hope that he lives past the Holidays but we can never really tell when it comes to GBMs.
I know your are worried. I too am worried for you and your SO. You both are always in my thoughts and prayers.
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| Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2007 2:39 am Post subject: Re: Biopsy Results are IN |
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K-
Im's so sorry to hear that things are happening so quick for you. It is hard that you can't be there, watching over him all day everyday. It is good you have some friends to be the silent on lookers.
Smart idea about the fuse  - I would have just taken all the keys- no idea with cars. Might have to flatten a few tires this time though.
Be there for him, but take Care of yourself too. How are the kids going?
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k
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| Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2007 12:33 pm Post subject: Re: Biopsy Results are IN |
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Thank you to EVERYONE for your messages. It means alot to me right now.
I had a bad night last night. I was on the phone with one of SO's good friends. He got angry at me and told me I should move out. He said some things that hurt. He said he wasn't sure how I "slipped" into the family. He said the boys are old enough to take care of themselves, that I should back off and leave everyone alone
This made me feel terrible. Although him and I are not married we have been together for three years and I do love him. I want to help. I am trying to do things I think the way he would like to have them.
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ksplat
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| Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2007 11:12 pm Post subject: Re: Biopsy Results are IN |
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Hi K
Sorry to read about your terrible "confrontation" last night with your SO. You must be feeling quite hurt at the moment.
The illness, biopsy, diagnosis & after effects have all happned so quickly with you & yours & I can't help feeling that your emotions & relationship would be strained & tortured at the mo. I would think the outburst was definitely "out of the blue" & perhaps can be contributed to the changes the tumour has made to the brain. Symptoms can change so swiftly with this disease.
Your SO needs you now more than ever & knowing how a MAN'S emotions work he is probably feeling a little sheepish about the outburst & a little embarrassed. I wouldn't be packing your bags just yet! Can you sit down with him & talk this situation over. Let him know that you think it's the cancer that's causing the changes in behaviour & ask what his thoughts are.
My Bro has outbursts from time to time with his SO that cause us much embarassment. She is doing everything for him & has done since he was diagnosed in Feb this year. She gave up her job to care for him because he's been permanently disabled from one of his resection surgeries. I've noticed that he can be very demanding & harsh at times & I've seen her eyes well up with the hurt. This illness causes such hardship to partners & families.
I hope you can get past this "distance" between the 2 of you & most importantly talk about everything troubling you.
Thinking of you.
Aussie Angie.
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brainman
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| Posted: Fri Dec 07, 2007 12:27 am Post subject: Re: Biopsy Results are IN |
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k, I am not sure you got angry with you: Your SO or his friend? I am very sorry that on top of everything else, you have to put up wish rejection  . It might just be his cancer speaking. Are the boys his sons or your sons?
I do not think you should feel terrible. You are doing the best that you can under terrible circumstances.
As to whether you should say or leave, that has to be your decision. It really depends on how much verbal abuse you are willing to take from him.
You are in my prayers tonight.
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1992 Astrocytoma grade 2, left motor strip
2005 Recurrence this time said to be an Oligodendoglioma grade 3, same location.
My Story Part 1: http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?p=7350
My Story Part 2: http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?t=8029
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k
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| Posted: Fri Dec 07, 2007 9:51 am Post subject: Re: Biopsy Results are IN |
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CRAP CRAP
I guess I didn't make myself very clear
It was NOT my SO That said all of those terrible things, it was a friend of my SO's that said those things
my SO wants me there
no his boys are not my boys - but i love them like they are |
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brainman
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| Posted: Fri Dec 07, 2007 10:48 am Post subject: Re: Biopsy Results are IN |
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k, that was what I first thought when I read your message. Not your SO but his "friend" told you off. THAT is so much better... really. It is still painful, I know, but it was not your SO saying those very nasty things to you. You need to ignore sources of negative energy because those types of people will just pull you down to their energy level. Find people who have positive energy who will support you through this time. Whether or not you are a part of your SO's life and family is no one's business but you and your SO. Same is true about your SO's sons. If they accept you as part of their lives, it is no one's business.
Yes, you should stay since this "friend" of your SO seems to be ignoring what your SO wants and needs. You SO still wants and needs you. What kind of a friend says that to the SO (you) of a friend (your SO) anyhow? (rhetorical question.)
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Site Administrator and long-term cancer survivor
1992 Astrocytoma grade 2, left motor strip
2005 Recurrence this time said to be an Oligodendoglioma grade 3, same location.
My Story Part 1: http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?p=7350
My Story Part 2: http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?t=8029
Blog http://jimhawkinsport.blogspot.com/ |
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