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BobandVal
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 Posted: Tue Oct 09, 2007 3:22 pm Post subject: Feeling of Despair |
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| Hello everyone who might be reading this. My thoughts and prayers go out to anyone in the situation we are in. I am not an internet person but am giving this a try. I am trying to make some contacts for a telephone buddy as I think I would prefer to talk to someone in person. I live on the Eastern Shore of Virginia. My husband was diagnosed with lung cancer in June which has spread to other areas including the lower spine and he has a lot of pain but is on medications. He has finished radiation therapy but it was not very consistent as he had some problems not being well enough to go - we live 50 minutes from our treatment hospital. He has had two chemos but his doctor is not ordering any more right now as he is so weak. His weight loss is tremendous and he has not eating. He just lays in the bedroom staring or dozing and says this is his way of dealing with it. I have a full time job but have given that up right now the past two weeks to care for him but I am so scared. He has had several falls. The nights are terrible as even with sleep medication I don't sleep as he is always putting the light on to do something. He has some neuropathy and cannot walk without support. It is terrifying and I feel like I am living in a twilight zone. I am hoping he will get a little better now that he has finished radiation (which was to the brain also). If anyone can help me get past this feeling with some advice it would be most welcome, and if anyone is interested in being a phone buddy, I would like that. Thanks for being there for me. |
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sodapop
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| Posted: Tue Oct 09, 2007 4:54 pm Post subject: Re: Feeling of Despair |
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Welcome, BobandVal,
This place has a great support system that can really help you along. I've been a short term member and have found lots of support and really nice people who understand what we may be going through.
I'm really sorry for your husbands diagnosis but we have to be strong and keep our faith in God.
I will keep you both in my prayers.
Keep us updated and we will support you in the best way we can. 
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| Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 9:15 pm Post subject: Re: Feeling of Despair |
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Bob and Val.
I'm so sorry for your Husbands bad health. But I am happy you have found this site to offer you help and support. I too am hopeless at the computer- but it soon grows on you.
Please keep us updated and feel free to post anything you like, questions, storys or advice.
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HooC
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| Posted: Thu Oct 11, 2007 7:00 pm Post subject: Struggling |
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| Hello everyone, I am the son of Bob and Val. My father Bob has just finished his last Radiation treatment as of last Monday but has been advised by the doctors to stop the chemo because it, as the doctor put it, "may do him in". My father is very week, barely being able to bring a cup half full of water to his mouth. My mom, Valerie and I are currently taking care of him together but we are just not sure how long he has left. The doctor gave me a prognosis of only 2 to 3 months and we just don't know how to handle it. My father can barely have a normal conversation and I rarely see him with both eyes completely open for any significant amount of time. We have had a home health care nurse come by and evaluate the situation, but could only offer someone to come in for a couple of hours two days a week. It has been so difficult for us to just sit around and watch him deteriorate into nothing. He has lost over 40 pounds within a month, doesn't eat, and has probably less than 10 sips of water each day. He has lost all strength in his legs, he can't even make it to the bathroom. We really do not know what else we can do for him. We try to give him everything he wants, but all he wants is to lay down in bed alone in the dark. He states it is his way of dealing with it. Our question is if it is time to call in hospice care. We could really use some comments from some people out there in a similar situation. So please drop us a line and give some advise, comments, or share a story. Thank you to everyone who has decided to come in this thread and read our story, our prayers and blessings go out to everyone that has been affected by this horrible disease. |
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| Posted: Thu Oct 11, 2007 7:27 pm Post subject: Re: Feeling of Despair |
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HooC,
I'm so sorry for you. It's so hard as a Son/Daughter to have to watch a parent so ill, so dependent. My heart goes out to you.
Can you get Bob valuated by a hospice administrator. Or someone who can have a look at him and help you with that decision. It sounds like you and your Mum, needs some help- so maybe it is tie for hospice. He might be more comfortable there too... ?
How are you dealing with this? Feeling? Feel free to rant and rave here, as well ask for help. Someone should reply with more of an idea, then me.  , to the hospice idea.
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