confused

zarathustra · New User Joined: 09 Aug 2007 Posts: 1

My boyfriend recently passed away from cancer. He was only 30. He requested that his ashes be spread over a mountain in Europe. This was done 2 days ago, but was carried out by his assistant. I am very upset about this as I do not understand why I was not asked to do it. He had no close family or friends and I was pretty much his only real personal relationship. Other than me, his whole life was business. I should have been the one to spread his ashes, to say that final good bye, not his assistant. His lawyers are controlling everything so i don't know if he specifically requested it that way or if his lawyers simply delegated the task to her since she was already there in Europe, but I am just curious, does anyone know why he would not specifically state that I should be the one to do it if I was the most important person to him, as he told me i was? It was so hurtful to find out she got to do this and I didn't even get to be there. There was no ceremony of any sort. This was the closest thing and I wasn't even notified aboout it until after it took place. I am so upset and I don't know what to do. Any advice or opinions would be appreciated. Thanks

Vee Smith · Moderator Joined: 12 Feb 2006 Posts: 701 Location: UK

Carry out your own ceremony. Take something he gave you or that has memories of your time together, go to the mountain where his ashes were scattered, and have a private moment of commemoration before burying the item.

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