Cancer is ......I can't find the words

HH · New User Joined: 07 Jul 2006 Posts: 6

Hi I have been very touched by lots that I have read on this site, After reading awhile you no longer think why my mom, It turns to why so many? mY mOM was diagnosed with colon cancer just over 4 years ago it had spread already to her liver and to some lymps she had a colon resection and chemo and radiation she was one of a very small section of the population partially missing an enzyme in her body to clear the chemo so she was incredably ill even after her first treatment during her chemo they found cancer in her liver she had 2 tumers removed and 3 microwaved zaped as she says. she got much better for a couple of years than we found cancer in her lungs and in the lymps in her back Through all of this she has been so strong she volenters at cancer care. In august of this year she turned really yellow we took her into the hospital and her bile duct was blocked due to a swollen lymp a shint was put in to open the duct and her color returned.
She lost alot of weight and her weigh is not coming back last night was my birthday and we all went out and had a great meal and a good time just after we left the resterant my mom got very dizzy and everything started to spin and she collapsed. Today she is some what better but i know she is slowing down and fading she has pain in her back and her panc. is involved It is strange because to see her she is still beautiful and lots of days if you did not know her you would never guess she was ill. When she was released from the hospital last time she went to the area where she volenteers we found her sitting holding the hand of a lady having chemo telling her she will get through it even though she was so sick her self. She is an incredable women I can't help but be in awe of the strength that i have seen through all of this. I just hope i can be strong in the end when she needs me. Right now i am worried about the amount of pain she will feel the doc thinks her liver will probably fail
in the end does any one know what to expect? It is very hard to look in her eyes and see her pain I feel like it makes her sad to have us near the look of pain in her eyes when she sees her grand kids is unbearable. It all seems so unfair Right now she is so much apart of me alittle of me is dying with her. I know we are not the only ones and that so many of you have felt the same pain it just all seems so unfair. My Mom has given so much to so many please give her your prayers

missumom · Experienced user Joined: 05 Jan 2006 Posts: 65

I am dedicating this prayer to your mom. God bless....

Prayer For The Sick

Dear Jesus, Divine Physician and Healer of the Sick, we turn to You in this time of illness. 0 dearest Comforter of the Troubled, alleviate our worry and sorrow with Your gentle love, and grant us the grace and strength to accept this burden. Dear God, we place our worries in Your hands. We place our sick under Your care and humbly ask that You restore Your servant to health again. Above all, grant us the grace to acknowledge Your holy will and know that whatsoever You do, You do for the love of us.

Amen.

HH · New User Joined: 07 Jul 2006 Posts: 6

Thank you

Xian120 · Regular Joined: 28 Aug 2006 Posts: 12

First I'm sorry your Mom has to be ill, and that you and your family have to go through all of this. The first thing I tell everyone Is to contact Hospice when the time is right, they will help you do the best you can to be sure your Mom is not in pain. I agree with you, it feels as if a part of you is dying with her. I felt that same thing while my Mom was sick. When she passed, a part of me did die. But when you love someone that much I believe thats a normal experience. I can tell you this, and I'll be blunt about it, it doesnt get any easier to see, it will get harder, and it will wiegh on you like the earth itself. But, you will live on, spending time with your Mother, as much as you can, talking, laughing, joking, and even just sitting with her is the best thing you can do. But don't be afraid, it is the cycle of life that we all experience, and God will never give you more than he knows you can handle. I'm sure all that read your post will pray for you and your Mother, and your family. Stay strong and hold her hand whenever you have the chance...

God be with you....

Christian

heres a link to Hospice with some of what to expect.

http://www.thehospice.org/dyingprocess2.htm

HH · New User Joined: 07 Jul 2006 Posts: 6

Those are words from my mothers mouth "god will never give you more than you can handle" Thank you. You are right it is getting harder but I think we all have more strenghth than we think and reading the posts here has really helped Take care and thanks for caring

HH · New User Joined: 07 Jul 2006 Posts: 6

Mom is in alot of pain with out her pain pills now, we seen the docter this week her liver has very little healthy tissue left and the tumers in her lungs have grown it is hard to see. my mom shocked me this week and agreed to take chemo. they are going to try to shrink the tumers abit with 3 chemo drugs i think the chemo will kill her she is so very weak now she has trouble walking more than a small distance and she has shortness of breath abit and her mid section is very swollen from the tumers also she may need a transfusion
docter thinks she is bleeding inside. Does any one know what chemo does at this stage if it shrinks the tumers abit does she rally again or is it prolonging life to feel bad from the chemo ?

brainman

HH, I am so sorry to hear about your mother’s struggle with Cancer. You asked if people rally after chemo. That is, of course, the hope. It really depends on the person and on the specific chemo she is receiving. Keep hoping.
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