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christah
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 Posted: Sat Jun 17, 2006 11:11 pm Post subject: Sad fathers day |
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So my dad is 54 yrs old and has pancritic cancer and they say he has 3 to 6 months to live. Well I went out today to get his fathers day gift and when I got to the cards it really hit me hard. I broke down cause I couldn't find the right card that I wanted to get him. It hurts to no that this MIGHT be the very last fathers day I have with my daddy. I'm 27 years old and I feel to young to have to be going through this. Please how do I cope with what might happen? I feel so sad tonight I can't stop crying and I feel all alone.  |
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DJW
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| Posted: Sun Jun 18, 2006 11:49 am Post subject: Re: Sad fathers day |
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Christah,
There is no Hallmark greeting to compare with saying "I love you" to someone. Believe me, it doesn't matter what the card says, only that you give it to him.
You are not alone, you have your Father today. Try your best to spend some time together. They don't have to be joyous, or celebrations, they can be quiet times too, just watching the sunset. Your time is limited, whether it's a few months, or a few years, you have been given the privelge of saying the things to your Father that most people never get the chance to.
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As Mother Angelica said when asked why God allows bad things to happen: "If it weren't for life's tragedies most of us would never even take one second to pray." It is only in suffering that we acknowlege our own mortality. |
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christah
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| Posted: Sun Jun 18, 2006 9:28 pm Post subject: Re: Sad fathers day |
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| Well me and dad had a super GREAT day. This morning when I was there he was sick and tired and all he wanted to do it sleep. So I left after while and went to see my husbands dad and this evening I went back to see my dad and he was in a much better mood. We laughed and just had a quiet time together. He's such a great man and I just love him so very much I just don't no what my would would be with out him in it. Tonight we talked about him not being able to work and he told me that all he wants to do is work. He feel helpless and doesn't feel like a man anymore. I tryed to say the right things and I hope that it made him some what feel better. Thanks everyone for this board it really helps to vent sometimes. |
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qaman
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| Posted: Sat Jun 24, 2006 1:10 am Post subject: Re: Sad fathers day |
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Spend all the time you possibly can with your Dad. I lost my Dad 19 days ago from cancer. The Doctor said his entire chest wall was one big tumor. While he was in the Hospital to get a biopsy he had 2 heart attacks. He continued on for 2 solid days with an accute MI until his heart stopped beating. Mom never did tell him that he had stage 4 cancer. There wasn't any need. When they took him off blood thinners to perform the biopsy he developed a clot next to his stent and never recovered.
Love your parents people. They wont be around as long as you think.
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MichelleDianeKnapp
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| Posted: Sun Jun 25, 2006 9:32 pm Post subject: Re: Sad fathers day |
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| This year I was not able to buy a gift or card for my father. He was diagnosed April 12th, 2006 and passed away May 13th (45 minutes short of mothers day) I know that he wouldn't have wanted to have spent his last fathers day in the state that he was but I still miss him. It will hit you hard from time to time. Grieving for the person before they are actually gone. Spend as much time with him as you can. These are your final days with your father until you meet again. I am 28 yrs old and I am now on the long stretch of time until I see him again. Even if you just sit there with him as he sleeps he will know that you are there and that you love him. I did the same with my father. The last few weeks of his life I was there for him. If I was out of his sight for a second he wanted to know where I was. Just knowing that I was there and didn't have to say a word to him, just the silent connectivity between us was immense. I love him and I miss him and its been such a short time with him here on earth. A longer time to live without him. |
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